Why Are You Afraid to Quit Smoking?

To People Who Want To Quit Smoking But Can’t Do It

Why Are You Afraid to Quit Smoking?

Do you ever think to yourself “I can’t quit smoking?”

Maybe you really want to quit, but it seems scary, overwhelming and hard.

So you keep postponing it for next week. And then the week after, and the one after that… until you forget about it.

Has this ever happened to you?

If yes, know that you are not alone.

See, all of us have felt stuck with this addiction. Wanting to quit and not wanting to.

Before I became a smoking cessation expert and created the CBQ quit smoking method that has 94% success rate, I was stuck with this filthy habit for a decade.

Smoking 10 years might not seem a big deal.

Still, I found quitting excruciatingly hard, and I was baffled by these questions:

Why can’t I quit smoking?

What is wrong with me?

Am I that weak?

I was afraid of failing. And I was afraid that my life would be miserable without cigarettes.

I used to think that I want to quit smoking but I enjoy it too much.

But as I found out later, these are not the real reasons why we can’t stop smoking.

The Reason Why You Can’t Quit Smoking

The reason you can’t stop smoking although you want to.. has nothing to do with you.

Let me explain.

After sitting down and interviewing smokers who told me “I need to stop smoking but I can’t”… I realized that they all have 1 thing in common:

They don’t know HOW to get started!

There is a quote by Lao Tzu that says “The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.”

Same way, your journey to your smoke-free life starts with a single step.

But to take that step, you have to know what it is.

Right?

If you don’t know how to start, you will always feel that quitting is beyond your reach.

But if you know what’s the first step, you will feel more confident in taking it.

So in this article, I will show you what the first quit smoking stage is.

This is one of the four stages of the CBQ method. This first stage will ease you into the quit smoking process.

Plus, I will give you 3 ways you can get started with this first stage as soon as you finish reading!

Ready?

The First Step Towards Your Smoke-Free Life

Every change starts with a decision. Same goes for kicking the nicotine habit.

Think about it.

When you try to quit smoking without making a solid decision first, then your mind overflows with doubt.

You keep thinking “ I can’t quit smoking ” and this brings you down.

Right?

But when you decide, really decide, to quit… then you feel empowered. You never second guess yourself because you feel ready.

And when you feel ready, then you are the one in control; not the cigarettes.

That’s why the first step towards your new, healthy life is to Choose to Quit.

Before doing anything else, you have to make a firm decision to stop smoking.

You have to say:

“THAT’S IT. NO MORE! I have to do something.”

Think about it.

You’ve probably said: “I should, I could, or I want to stop smoking” many times before. But for some reason, you couldn’t stay motivated and quit.

But why?

It’s because you never really decided to quit.

Most people skip this stage because they mistake their desire to quit with a decision.

But the desire to quit doesn’t determine your commitment to follow through. A real decision does.

Ok, now you know what’s the first the 4 steps to a successful quit attempt.

So, let’s see the 3 best ways you can start with this first stage and decide to quit.

1. Make Quitting Less Overwhelming

Quitting can be an overwhelming goal because there are just so many things to do, too many things to consider.

This overload can be paralyzing.

So deciding when to stop smoking will help you move forward.

By setting a quit date, you are making your goal to be smoke-free more specific, more real, more tangible!

So pick a date that feels right but is challenging at the same time.

Quit in one week, two weeks or a month.

Just commit to it and note that day. Circle it in your diary or put a reminder on your phone.

And say it out loud: “I am quitting smoking on (your date)!”

2. Find Your “WHY”

After you set your quit date, you need to think about your reasons to quit smoking.

If you try to quit just because you have to.. then you won’t feel motivated for long.

But if you take a moment and reflect on the real reasons you want to be smoke-free, then your decision to quit will grow stronger. And you will quit smoking naturally.

So think with me now for a moment.

Why do you want to stop smoking?

Maybe your body has started giving you warning signs about your health and your energy.

Perhaps, you’re starting to realize that smoking has taken a toll on your pocket.

Or maybe you just want to live a long, healthy and happy life with those you love.

The problem is that all of these compelling reasons won’t stay on top of your mind when you have a craving.

That’s why you have to write them down and keep them with you at all times.

These reasons – your whys- will help you stay motivated without using your willpower.

Let’s do this together now.

Ok, so what is your reason for quitting?

I need to quit smoking because I want to…

  • be healthy once again
  • be there for my family and loved ones
  • get my peace of mind back
  • breathe better
  • get rid of the cigarette smell
  • stop wasting a fortune on cigarettes
  • or feel vibrant and healthy

Whatever it is for you, just write it down!

Moving on…

3. Clear Your Mind from Doubt

After writing down the reasons you want to stop smoking, you’ll probably feel there’s still something holding you back.

That something is doubt.

You may feel uncertain about whether or not you can do this.

Or you may think that you should wait for a better time to quit.. a less stressful time.

All this hesitation is normal. It’s part of the process.

But if doubt stays in your mind, then it gets magnified, and it can keep you stuck. Every problem seems worse inside our head.

For example, have you ever been worried sick about something… thinking it over and over again…

…and when you talked about your worry with someone else.. you realized that it wasn’t as bad as you thought it was?

Well, doubt about quitting can be reduced the same way:

By taking it your head and putting it into words; either by writing it down or by talking about it with someone else.

So take a piece of paper now and write down every single thing that makes you doubt your decision to stop smoking.

Write, I believe I can’t quit smoking because…

  • It’s too hard
  • I don’t want to fail
  • I think I won’t enjoy life as much without cigarettes
  • I don’t have the support I need
  • I live with other smokers
  • I won’t be able to control my behavior

And keep on writing until your mind is empty.

And remember, you are not alone in thinking all those things.

Every ex-smoker went through this.

After all, fear and doubt about quitting are totally eliminated during the second quit smoking stage.

So for now, all you need to do is articulate and express what is worrying you.

How to Start and Finish Your Quit Smoking Journey

To quit smoking naturally and easily so that you will never miss cigarettes again, you will need to go through all of the 4 quit smoking stages of the CBQ method.

Following these 4 stages, in the right sequence, will free you from your cravings and remove the enjoyment you get from smoking.

So if you want to know more about the first stage as well as what to do after you decide to stop smoking…

Click here to get the exclusive video of the 4 stages.

It’s 100% free.

All you need to do is enter your name and email address. And make sure you watch it all because there is a free gift at the end of that video.

Get the 4 stages of the CBQ method now.

Источник: https://cbqmethod.com/to-people-who-want-to-quit-smoking-but-cant-get-started/

What are you SCARED of? Quitting Smoking and Other Addictions | by Chris Skoyles | Medium

Why Are You Afraid to Quit Smoking?

Still smoking but desperately wish you could quit? Think you’ve got a problem with drink, drugs, or anything else but can’t take that next step towards getting the help you need?

Then let me ask you this:

What are you afraid of?

Nothing, right?

I mean, it’s silly to suggest that the reason you haven’t yet done anything about the problem is that you’re scared isn’t it?

Or is it?

You see, when I was struggling to quit smoking, I realised one thing:

That the biggest thing getting in my way was fear.

I was terrified about all kinds of things — and for the longest time, I had absolutely no idea.

Once I realised it was fear getting in my way, I could address those fears head on and actually start to have some success in my quit attempt.

Since then, I’ve spoken to people who have all kinds of other addictions, and when you get down to the root cause that they’re struggling to get clean, stay sober, or overcome whatever addiction it is they have, it comes down to the same thing:

Fear.

Again, once those fears are addressed, they immediately lose their power, and when they lose their power, they become less

of an obstacle to success.

So that’s what we’re going to do today — look at the biggest fears that stopped me — and the people I know — from moving active addiction to cigarettes and other substances — and tackle them head-on.

Ready?

Let’s do it.

I’m Afraid I’ll Fail

Did you know that the number of people who successfully quit smoking on their first attempt is something 7%?

Ridiculously low, right?

But that doesn’t mean that those 7% of people were successful and the rest of us who picked up a cigarette again after deciding to quit have failed. It just means that — Thomas Edison- we’ve just found a bunch of ways that don’t work for us — ultimately getting us closer to the one way that WILL work.

There’s an even scarier statistic for those recovering from alcoholism — the number of people who relapse after a period of sobriety is 50% — 90%.

So the reality is that there’s every chance most of us won’t get it right the right time round, but does that mean we’ve failed?

Look:

You only fail when you stop trying

Yes, setbacks can be traumatic, but that’s all they are — setbacks.

Hopefully, you’ll be in the minority that nail it the first time round, but if you don’t, make those setbacks part of your journey.

Use them as an opportunity to learn where you went wrong, and correct course accordingly.

I get it, it can be scary to think that you might not make it, but as long as you keep on trying, I absolutely promise you that you will get there.

How do I know this?

Because I’m a recovering alcoholic and former 40-a-day smoker. Over the last couple of months, I’ve celebrated one year since I quit smoking and five years of sobriety, and if a once hopeless case me can do that — then you absolutely can -and will- do even better.

I’m Afraid I’ll Gain Weight

There are experts out there who offer methods of quitting smoking without gaining any weight. If you want a suggestion, I recommend Paul McKenna’s book, Quit Smoking Today Without Gaining Weight, which offers just that.

It’s a great book, but it didn’t work for me because I didn’t follow McKenna’s instructions — so I gained a tonne of weight when I quit smoking, just as I did when I first quit drinking.

I’m not alone in this. I’ve spoken to friends who also piled on weight when they quit smoking, and just last night I was talking to a girl who was a week sober and complaining that she’d “swapped one addiction for another” by devouring food the whole week long.

What I’m getting at here, is that weight gain is a real possibility — but it’s absolutely nothing to be afraid of.

I noticed that the real reason I gained weight when I quit smoking was that I still hadn’t addressed the root cause of my addictions in the first place — that low self-esteem and fear (there it is again) that I won’t be able to cope with life on life’s terms, the part of me when the going gets tough, decides that it’s easier to self-sabotage with addictive substances rather than tackle it head on.

Realising this was a blessing — it allowed me to do some real work on myself, to address issues I’d had for years but always blotted out with cigarettes, alcohol, or food. I could work on these issues and become -for lack of a better term- a better person.

As for the weight itself?

Despite gaining over 25 pounds in my first year as an ex-smoker, I found that all it took was to introduce healthier meals into my diet and get out on my mountain bike a few times a week for all that extra weight to start falling off.

And the best part?

It doesn’t feel a chore.

After a while, the extra energy you get by being an ex-smoker or a former drinker actually makes getting fresh air and exercise a joy.

I’m Afraid I Won’t Know How to Handle Day-to-Day Situations Without My Crutch

This is the one that actually made me realise that the biggest barrier to me quitting smoking was fear.

I realised that the real reason I wasn’t going for it was that I couldn’t imagine going through day-to-day life without cigarettes.

They had become such an integral part of my routine, my habits, and my social life, that I was subconsciously terrified about how I’d cope without them.

What would I do when I woke up in a morning? How would I get my day started without a cigarette?

What about breaks at work — I’d always smoked after completing a piece of work — what was I supposed to do? Just sit there and work all day?

What would I do when all my still-smoking friends went outside for a cigarette?

You know what I did?

Adapted.Coped.

In some cases, thrived.

I got more work done because I wasn’t constantly going to smoke every hour or so.

I stopped coughing my lungs up for ten minutes in a morning following that first-thing cigarette.

I got talking to new people whilst my smoking friends went out for a cigarette, and made new friends in the process.

In other words — good things happened, and all those fears about how I’d cope — it turns out none of them were really justified.

I’m Afraid of Going Through Withdrawals

There’s no easy way to tell you this — sometimes, withdrawals absolutely suck.

When I first quit smoking, I had times when I was bouncing off the walls so much that I was tempted to sellotape cushions to those walls to stop myself from getting hurt.

But here’s the good news — every one of those withdrawals pass.

They weren’t painful, and they certainly didn’t have any long-lasting detrimental impact on my life.

They were -simply- short periods of discomfort.

That’s it.

So yeah, they weren’t pleasant, but I assure you, they’re nothing to be afraid of.

For me, when I knew that withdrawals were part of the process, it gave me the strength to get through them without relapsing, no matter how uncomfortable they were. I knew that -as much as it sucked- this was actually a sign of me getting better. Sometimes, I even imagined that the discomfort was caused by all the gunk I’d polluted my body with physically leaving me.

Before I go, I’ll repeat what I said at the start of this piece:

When we confront our fears head-on, they lose their power and control over us

With the power gone, it’s possible to see that the parts of quitting addiction that we were afraid of actually have positive benefits for us, and by focussing on those positive benefits, quitting smoking, getting sober, or overcoming any other addiction becomes not only easier, but also one of the best experiences of our lives.

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