- Compatibility and Chemistry in Relationships
- What Is Compatibility?
- What Is Chemistry?
- Signs You Relationship Has No Chemistry and How to Deal With It
- What is the meaning of “No Chemistry”?
- Difference between chemistry and compatibility
- Does chemistry matter in a relationship?
- What should you do when there is no chemistry in a relationship?
- 1. Find out what your partner wants
- 2. Look for similar traits
- 3. Try to communicate often
- 4. Make your partner curious
- 5. Maintain constant eye contact with your partner
- 6. Put more effort into your look
- How to rekindle the chemistry
- 8 Signs You Have No Chemistry (What To Do About It?)
- Understanding What Goes On In Our Mind
- What Do You Mean No Chemistry?
- 3. You Don’t Want To Associate With Them
- 4. Nothing Seems Informal
- 5. Feel Of Disappointment
- 6. You Prefer To Be With Someone Else
- 7. Little Or No Eye Contact
- 8. It’s Always Hard To Please Each Other
- Does Chemistry Matter In A Relationship?
- What Should You Do When Chemistry Is Absent In A Relationship
- 1. Make Sure You Communicate As Often As Possible
- 2. Ensure There Is More Eye Contact
- 3. Be Sincere
- 4. Try To Look Good Always
- 5. Go On Dates
Compatibility and Chemistry in Relationships
Having chemistry in relationships and being compatible with someone are not always the same thing.
A lot of dating advice glosses over the concepts of compatibility and chemistry, assuming most people have an intuitive grasp of what these two words mean and why they’re so important to a successful relationship. Everyone kind of assumes we know what compatibility and chemistry mean and whether we have them or not.
Dating advice mostly ignores diving into compatibility and chemistry because they can’t be faked or changed. These ideas are there or they are not.
Instead, most dating advice focuses on the nuts and bolts of dating: what to say, when to say it, how to not look an ass-face. Dating advice also caters to people who want the “hacks.
” They want to know how to get that person who we feel is our league, to somehow trick or coax or cajole them into noticing us: 3 things to say to the girl we’ve never had before. Here’s what to wear to attract the man we’ve fantasized about.
Don’t talk about pineapples on the first date if you don’t want to die alone.1
And if that guy or girl who’s our league is actually not compatible with us, well, we don’t really want to hear about that.
The terms compatibility and chemistry are often used interchangeably, but they’re not the same thing.
A lot of people use the words loosely to try to define that thing which exists in the space between two people—the unspeakable and unseen connection (or lack thereof).
But they’re not the same thing at all, and understanding the difference is crucial if you want a happy, healthy, and long-term relationship.
What Is Compatibility?
Compatibility is the natural alignment of lifestyle choices and values of two people. A youth minister and a drug dealer are probably incompatible and I doubt many end up dating each other.
If I value women who are intelligent and educated and I meet a high school dropout who is attracted to guys who have big muscles and to hunt deer, then we have a fundamental incompatibility that will probably never be overcome and we will never date one another. At least, not for long.
Compatibility is about the long-term potential of two people. High compatibility comes from similarities in lifestyles and values. Generally speaking, educated liberal people usually date other educated and liberal people. Hedonists usually date other hedonists. Insane religious nuts usually date other insane religious nuts.2
- Life priorities – Where does each of you see yourself in the next five years? Is it climbing the corporate ladder or living out your days on a tropical beach? Does one want to have a kid and settle down while the other wants a carefree life?
- Preferences – Are there activities you both enjoy? Is one of you comfortable living in a dumpster while the other is a clean freak? Does one turn up to dates on time while the other is perennially two hours late?
- Fundamental beliefs – Is one of you a career scientist while the other bounces from one conspiracy theory to another?
- Values – Our values are the origin from which most (if not all) of the above flow. If your values are not aligned with your significant other’s, then I have bad news for you.
- Favorite flavor of burrito – It all comes back to burritos. Always.
What Is Chemistry?
Chemistry, on the other hand, represents the emotional connection present when two people are together. When there is a high degree of chemistry, that strong connection can bring out warm, fuzzy emotions in each other, creating a kind of positive feedback loop through which two people continue to make each other feel better and better.
When you have a high degree of chemistry with someone, they monopolize your thoughts and/or your free time. You’ll stay awake talking till the sun comes up and not even feel an hour went by.
You’ll hope that every call or text is him/her.
You’ll walk through life constantly wondering, “What would he/she think about x?” where x is a song, a bird, a walk through the park, a traffic jam, or a colonoscopy.
Call it passion; call it love; call it sickness. The basic traits of your/their personality and your/their slightest behaviors ravage each others’ dopamine receptors in a neurological orgy of starry-eyed dreaminess.
- The way your partner laughs at your jokes
- The questions they ask you about your day
- The way you hold each other in bed
- How they help you decorate your new apartment
- The way they smell3
- How they always ask you for a bite of your burrito and when you say no they take a bite anyways but look so damn cute while doing it you can never bring yourself to feel mad—this is the definition of true love, by the way.
Chemistry is made up of subtle behaviors and dispositions that mesh with behaviors and dispositions of the other person. What’s created is a kind of closed karmic loop in which chemistry is felt by both parties equally. The most important rule about chemistry is that whatever you’re feeling, he or she is most ly feeling the same way. You almost become empaths with one another.
The artist Alex Grey once said, “True love is when two people have pathologies that complement one another.” He was only half-joking.
High levels of chemistry usually come from opposite yet complementary qualities in people.
A woman who is highly-strung, energetic, and slightly neurotic will tend to have a high degree of chemistry with a guy who is relaxed, mellow, and open. Introverts often have natural chemistry with extroverts.
People who are orderly and intense planners sometimes work best with people who are spontaneous and unorganized.
Un a lack of compatibility, a lack of chemistry doesn’t repel—it simply results in a lack of emotional intensity. Things just feel kind of dead and boring.
Chemistry is also reflected in the bedroom. A lack of chemistry will mean boring, emotionless sex. A high degree of chemistry will mean intense, life-altering, heart-pounding sex that causes your mind to cosmically splatter itself on the walls of your consciousness. Good times.
Unfortunately, compatibility and chemistry don’t always occur together.
A relationship with high compatibility but little chemistry is ly to be a boring yet comfortable series of meetings and conversations.
It will be a dry and dull affair until both parties simply stop caring and drift apart, or they consummate their mutual convenience by getting married and find themselves in a lifetime of uncomplicated and (often) asexual companionship. Sadly, this arrangement isn’t uncommon.
Chemistry without compatibility, on the other hand, usually leads to disaster.4 Sometimes it can be as simple as not living in the same part of the world, but often it’s far more complicated than that.
When two people are completely incompatible, their behavior becomes completely irrational. Too often, two incompatible people initiate a cycle of mutual emotional immolation, spiraling through love/hate cycles together at the speed of life.
People find themselves saying things , “I don’t care if he’s married to a convicted felon, we’re meant to be together,” or “Look, I know she faked being pregnant to get me to propose to her, but you know, it may just be fate, right?” Meanwhile, friends stare, jaws agape, unsure whether to risk the backlash by trying to snap them it or to feign support while their love-blind torture victim pal continues to spin helpless and deluded in a tornado of love.
High levels of chemistry with major incompatibilities is bad news. Really bad news.
These relationships usually begin quickly and passionately, exploding a geyser, before dying down just as quickly as it erupted. This tends to happen when logic kicks in and when reality makes itself known.
Suddenly, you realize how fucking offensive you find each other, but getting such a relationship is easier said than done. Your heart says yes, but your head says no.
And then you convince your head to say yes, which in turn makes your heart say no.
At this point, your decision making usually defaults to your genitals—even though their track record for decision making is about as good as a drunk third-grader’s—which only leads to embarrassing public arguments, unpaid drink tabs, thrown iPhones, changed locks, unanswered phone calls, tear-ridden voicemails, and the sterile interior of a clinic, or if you’re lucky, an oh-god-please-don’t-give-me-a-false-positive-you-piece-of-shit-$9.99-pregnancy-test-from-a-7/11 experience, which is guaranteed to challenge anyone’s sanity.
And then there you are (wherever you go, as they say), and you find yourself jobless with two one-way tickets to Bermuda that were never used, six stitches, slashed car tires, and a shattered cell phone. But at least that psycho is fucking gone (even though you still kinda miss them). The experience is vicious yet thrilling, and will never let you forget that we are, after all, animals.
Not that I’m speaking from personal experience or anything. Nope. Nothing to see here. Move along.
Spoiler alert: you won’t.
Search all you want, but you will never, ever, find someone who has 100% compatibility and chemistry with you.
Someone whose life priorities are perfectly aligned with yours may still enjoy completely different leisure activities. You may swoon every time your partner smiles at you but get irritated by how they always make that weird sound when breathing.
100% compatibility and chemistry doesn’t exist. You’d be dating yourself. And even then, you’re going to have a bad time—I mean, have you spent any time with yourself lately?
70-80% compatibility and chemistry is what you should be aiming for. Is there a way to measure this? Fuck no. But that feels about right to me. This is more than enough to have a well-functioning relationship, to build a partnership mutual respect, to fall a little more in love with each passing day but also weather the storms when love just doesn’t seem to be enough.
And here’s the dirty little secret: you don’t want that remaining 20-30%. It’s actually dealing with those “flaws” and surmounting the small irritations that makes a relationship feel meaningful and rewarding.
So stop looking for “the one.” Stop dreaming of someone who finishes all your sentences and does everything you want them to, exactly the way you it. They don’t exist.
That’s not a relationship, that’s a rich fantasy life.
Navigating the dating landscape with confidence requires that you understand compatibility and chemistry.
If you want to ultimately end up enjoying your time with an amazing partner—and I don’t just mean enjoying sex (that should be a given, sex is neat-o), but I mean really, truly enjoying your time together—then it’s important you get a cognitive handle on these emotional indicators of compatibility and chemistry.
The most important aspect is understanding what you want—what makes a person compatible with you, what personality traits have chemistry with you? The first question you should ask yourself is “What do I want?”5 And then you should probably ask yourself a few more questions.
You need to know what you and what you want in a partner. if you want kids or not,6 or if you are really into blondes. Those answers matter. If you don’t know, then you need to cautiously gain enough experience until you do know.
Back when I was dating, I found that I was incapable of dating girls who weren’t incredibly smart. I could make it 2-3 dates with a woman of average intelligence or less and that was usually solely by merit of drowning my entire face in alcohol.
Since a long-term relationship with these women would have necessitated that I take up alcoholism as a hobby, we inevitably parted ways. I also learned that I don’t work well with women who are particularly religious or who have socially conservative values.
Just not my thing.
I learned that I have chemistry with women who are driven and ambitious. Their personalities work with mine in a unique, yet comfortable way (for both of us).
I’ve also found my personality meshes well with women who are a tad neurotic, as I’m generally too laid back for my own good. I “click” with women who appreciate a dark, sarcastic wit and are very giving and caring.
In my dating days, I regularly found myself seeing teachers, nurses, social workers, volunteer workers, etc. for multiple dates, which sometimes progressed to a serious relationship.
These are the women who work for me. Who works for you?
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Signs You Relationship Has No Chemistry and How to Deal With It
When there is no chemistry between two people, it is a sign that the relationship may survive. Keep reading to find out more about the lack of chemistry.
A romantic relationship is healthy and full of exciting moments shared between two individuals. Typically, it would help if you were happy when you are with your intimate partner.
Even when you are fighting, you still want to be with them to solve the problem and find solutions together. You always want to feel the butterflies bubbling in your stomach joyfully.
Unfortunately, there are many relationships with no chemistry due to one reason or the other. If you find yourself constantly asking, “Do we have chemistry?” there is a high chance that there is no chemistry connection in your relationship.
If there were any, you would not be second-guessing your feelings or your partner’s. So what does it mean when there is no chemistry in a relationship?
What is the meaning of “No Chemistry”?
To find out if there is no spark in your relationship, you need to understand the meaning of Chemistry. Chemistry, in a relationship, has nothing to do with molecules or substances. It is an emotional and physical connection between two individuals.
Chemistry is that impulse that makes you say, “Oh! I need to see that woman again.” or “We should meet up for a second date.”
When you have chemistry with someone, your thoughts will always revolve around them. When you see a movie or attend a concert, you think of how it will be with them.
When you see nice clothes in a boutique, you visualize their appearance in the clothes. These are indications that there is a chemical connection between you two.
If you can’t find any of the above in your relationship, it means there is no spark, and you are in a relationship without passion. A relationship with no chemistry does not excite you or your partner.
Where there is no chemistry, you don’t feel going on a second date or having conversations that last till the sun goes down.
Instead of hoping that every call and text is from your partner, you rather wish it’s your network provider bugging you.
That does not mean you hate the person. Instead, you don’t feel attracted to them enough to spend time with them.
Meanwhile, some people ask, “Can chemistry be one-sided?” Of course, it can. Understand that no relationship is entirely equal as one partner usually loves the other person.
However, when only one person makes the most effort to make the relationship work, there is no chemistry connection.
Related Reading: Do We Have a Real Chemistry Quiz
Difference between chemistry and compatibility
Chemistry differs from compatibility, even though people use the two interchangeably. Chemistry brings out the emotional reactions between two individuals.
It is the element that makes them want to keep talking for a long time without getting bored of each other.
On the other hand, compatibility means connecting two people regarding life choices, principles, activities, interests, and hobbies.
For instance, an educated woman and an uneducated man seem incompatible since they have different career principles and values. However, they can have chemistry.
Also, chemistry does not always equate to love, which means you can still love a person even when you don’t feel emotionally connected. You can love without chemistry, just you love your friends, but may not feel emotionally attracted to them.
To know more about compatibility and chemistry watch this video:
Does chemistry matter in a relationship?
Many people have asked the question, “How important is chemistry in a relationship?” which leads to another question, “How do people get attracted to someone the first time?”
For anyone to summon up the courage to speak to another human, there must have been a spark somewhere. It is an effortless and natural attraction towards someone.
Most people forget that love is in phases. When you see two individuals deeply in love, know that they must have passed through many stages. At every step of your relationship, you feel different sensations that make you react differently.
Some hormones cause your feelings towards a person in the brain. The main culprit for this is called dopamine in your brain. It is a neurotransmitter that sends information to neurons when you are happy and excited.
Thus, your brain produces dopamine when you have feelings for someone. Without dopamine, there will be no chemistry between two people. Therefore, chemistry is essential in a relationship.
Chemistry is magnetic. It is the element that makes someone drawn to you even though you have never met the person before. Now, think of the first time you met the love of your life.
What were they doing? How did they stand? What attracted you to them? Was it their beauty? Height? Face? Or just their presence.
That’s why the chemistry connection between two people can be emotional, physical, intellectual, or other inexplicable hidden traits. Without these initial foundational connections, it is challenging to build a relationship..
There is a reason people go on multiple dates before deciding to start a relationship.
That’s because a relationship demands some preliminary stages where you get to know each other’s s, diss, interests, and so on. That is where you know if there is chemistry or not.
As mentioned earlier, chemistry does not mean love. You can love without chemistry, meaning you can love a person’s personality but not develop a chemistry connection with them.
With time, however, and frequent visitations and efforts, you can eliminate the lack of chemistry in the relationship. That’s why chemistry is naturally without effort, but you can build it with intentional actions.
In essence, chemistry is a vital part of a healthy and lasting relationship.
Related Reading:Understanding the Basic Signs of Sexual Chemistry
What should you do when there is no chemistry in a relationship?
Once you ask the question, “Do we have chemistry, and you conclude that “there is no chemistry between us,” it is time to find solutions. Solutions can come in different forms. You may wish to end the relationship or seek ways around it.
Regardless of your choice, every relationship deserves some effort, no matter how little. Read the following strategies when you discover there is no chemistry between you and your partner.
1. Find out what your partner wants
If there is no spark in your relationship, then you need to find out what your partner wants from the relationship or you. When your man or woman is not getting their desires in a relationship, they will seek the connection from outside.
2. Look for similar traits
When there is love without chemistry, you should try to find common grounds where you both agree. Research has shown that people are generally attracted to people they have the same DNA with, including facial expression, height, size, background, race, etc.
When you notice some patterns, you can focus on building your relationship on these features.
3. Try to communicate often
A relationship without passion usually shows a pattern of no communication. Telling your partner how you feel helps them understand what you want.
It creates a deep connection and enables you to avoid misunderstandings, anger, and resentment towards each other.
Related Reading:Open Communication In a Relationship
4. Make your partner curious
Another trigger of the dopamine in the brain is curiosity. Naturally, humans are more inclined to move closer to someone when they can’t predict or know the person’s line of action.
So, don’t try to reveal everything about yourself to ignite the curiosity of your partner.
5. Maintain constant eye contact with your partner
When there is no chemistry between you and your potential partner, you can use eye contact to turn things around. People to feel noticed, and keeping your gaze on someone is a way to create attraction.
It also means you value their existence and respect them enough. It can make people open up and communicate better. According to a study, maintaining eye contact makes people honest.
6. Put more effort into your look
One thing that causes a lack of chemistry between two people is your physical look. As mentioned earlier, physical traits play a significant role in chemistry connection. You may not care or notice it, but how you dress and your general personality determine your partner’s reaction.
Meanwhile, appearing reasonable does not take much effort. By wearing neat and well-ironed clothes, clean shoes smelling good, you can create a spark in the other person.
Related Reading: Signs of Physical Attraction and Why It Is so Important
How to rekindle the chemistry
When you notice a sudden lack of chemistry in your relationship, it can be frustrating. It is even more difficult when your relationship used to be exciting and romantic.
Nonetheless, there are ways to rekindle the sparks that once make you think you won’t leave your partner.
- Create time to spend with your partner.
- Be curious about your partner.
- Do things that make you happy together.
- Explore more ways to make your sexual life fun.
- Hold hands more often.
- Make constant eye contact.
- Make affectionate touches, such as patting, kissing on the forehead, etc.
- Be more vulnerable and communicate your deepest desires, fantasy, and wishes.
- Be more honest and sincere.
- Do something new in your relationship.
Related Reading: Ways to Rekindle Romance in Your Marriage
Chemistry is a vital part of a relationship, and it determines its strength. However, things don’t work out the way we want. For many reasons, you and your potential partner may not feel that natural sparks and chemistry connection.
That’s fine. When there is love without chemistry, try a few of the recommended strategies above.
8 Signs You Have No Chemistry (What To Do About It?)
Chemistry? A scientific word in a relationship discussion hmm… A detailed explanation of what this word means is very important before we move to the subject matter.
Well, the word chemistry in a relationship context can be described as that feeling that connects two people together emotionally. Chemistry is that spark that makes a relationship feel magical or some kind of enchantment. It’s a reciprocating positive reaction to each other’s company.
Have you ever been in a situation where you are just meeting a guy or a girl for the very first time and you felt you are connected with him or her easily?. As in, you felt the time spent with them is so nice that leaving them at any moment could cause some kind of disaster? Then you’ve witnessed the sign of chemistry.
The feeling when there is chemistry can be immediate or sometimes it takes a little time. But regardless of how fast it happens, I’m pretty sure you understood what I’m trying to say.
Understanding What Goes On In Our Mind
Did you know that at every stage of love, the body feels some kind of sensation within that makes you react and behave differently?. Well, according to Dr. Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist, every stage of love is characterized by its own set of hormones produced in the brain.
There is this chemical called dopamine which has dual functions (as a hormone and a neurotransmitter) in the human brain. It functions as a neurotransmitter in the brain thereby sending vital information between neurons.
Dopamine is being released in the brain when we see someone we love or during sex, contributing to the feelings of both pleasure and satisfaction as part of a reward system.
Hence, the dopamine chemical is produced when you have feelings for something or someone (infatuation stage).
Other chemicals such as norepinephrine and oxytocin in conjunction with vasopressin are produced at the attraction stage and attachment phase of love respectively. But the most important of all these chemicals is the dopamine. It’s needed for chemistry to come up between two people. The dopamine must be triggered in the brain of those two individuals who are interested in each other.
What Do You Mean No Chemistry?
Now to the words “No Chemistry”, this simply means there is neither an attraction from you towards a person nor from that person towards you. Both of you are not connected in any way towards each other, and for a relationship to stand, there needs to be a kind of connection between the two parties who feel they are interested in each other.
When your brain doesn’t get a signal through the chemical reaction initiated by dopamine, there won’t be chemistry between you and any opposite sex. This is the basic way for you to confirm if you have chemistry with somebody or not. There are still other ways by which you can confirm this, and they are listed below:
There is always ease in conversing with someone you have chemistry with. You don’t have to force the conversation with the person. Talking to someone you have chemistry with is something natural. The conversation will flow without you realizing you’ve been talking with someone for a while.
Whereas, when it’s someone who you don’t have an interest in, the conversation will become boring along the line. It always seems the two of you are forcing each other to have a discussion.
This is one of the major signs that there is no chemistry between you and somebody. When you can neither see their point of view nor can they see yours, the connection between you people that proves there is chemistry is just not there.
Chemistry is present between two people when one is able to connect with whatever the other person in the relationship says. There won’t be any form of misinterpretation of words when the connection is there. Therefore, chemistry is absent when there is no connection of ideas!
3. You Don’t Want To Associate With Them
When there is no chemistry between you and someone, you don’t want to have any form of physical or mental relationship with them. For instance, when two people who are dating sit some meters away from each other, the chemistry between them tends to draw them closer.
But when there is no form of chemistry, they move far away from each other just as how the north poles of a magnet repel one another. No matter how you try to force things, the closeness is never possible.
Therefore, when there is chemistry between people, they will always associate with each other in any way.
4. Nothing Seems Informal
You might be wondering what informality has to do with relationships, well, this shows there is comfortability. When there is no chemistry, you are never comfortable with that partner of yours who you are dating. You always want to be polite and proper when they are around you. It’s a must to look organized and corporate around them.
If this is how your current supposed relationship is, then I’m telling you chemistry is absent between you and that guy or girl.
5. Feel Of Disappointment
There is nothing as bad as a disappointment when you are dating somebody. You don’t feel the vibe from the relationship chemistry each and every time you are with that guy or girl.
This kind of thing happens when the bond between two individuals is not strong enough to bring trust in their relationship.
There won’t be any spark when there is disappointment, or will you love to have a relationship with someone you feel disappointed with? It’s impossible.
6. You Prefer To Be With Someone Else
When you are with somebody you are dating, and you are never happy being with them; instead, you always want to be with someone else, then chemistry is absent.
The chemistry between two people brings happiness, joy, and everything good to the relationship, and both parties will always want to be together.
Even when they seem to be disconnected from each other due to work or any issue, they will always want to make sure there is a connection.
7. Little Or No Eye Contact
When there is little or no eye contact from two people who are dating, the chemistry between them is absent. You can’t make eye contact for long with someone you don’t or love; instead you keep taking a glance.
You don’t seem comfortable when your eyes turn four with that of your partner. This shows that you don’t have anything in common. Therefore there is no form of chemistry at all.
8. It’s Always Hard To Please Each Other
No matter how you try to make things work out between you and your partner, the relationship just doesn’t seem to work. When this happens, then you are not connected together at all. You both don’t know what to do about it nor are you willing to work on it.
Does Chemistry Matter In A Relationship?
I have been approached so many times by a lot of people who asked me if chemistry matters in a relationship and I’ve always told them my answer is, yes. Chemistry matters a lot and it makes a big difference in a relationship.
Yes, I know it’s a friendship that often develops into relationships, but along the line of development, there is this emotional connection that tends to be strong between two people who started as friends. This strong connection is what chemistry is all about.
Both of you must be fully connected in some ways emotionally. No partial connection, it has to be equal. If the north and south poles of a magnet don’t feel the same way towards each other, there can’t be any attraction between them.
For instance, if you are in the mood to make love with your partner but that partner of yours does not feel making love at that moment, then chemistry is absent. It’s only the sexual attraction that is present, nothing else. You know the feeling is one-sided.
I’d to note that chemistry is different from attraction. If there are no mutual feelings, there is nothing chemistry. Feelings must not be one-sided for you to feel chemistry in your relationship. There needs to be some kind of reaction for chemistry to occur. And for reaction to occur, two entities that have an affinity for each other must be involved.
What Should You Do When Chemistry Is Absent In A Relationship
Now you have the knowledge of the importance of chemistry and how it works in a relationship, an understanding of what should be done when it’s absent is very necessary. Some of the things you need to do when you experience this in your relationship includes the following:
1. Make Sure You Communicate As Often As Possible
Communication really matters in any relationship. Whether you are dating, or just casual friends, you need to ensure there is continuous communication. Communication reveals a lot about somebody and how the relationship will look when it starts or along the line.
Lack of communication brings a lot of negative things to the mind in a relationship. While one party might think the other has found another partner, the other party might think a break up is needed. To maintain distance relationships, communication is vital.
2. Ensure There Is More Eye Contact
Research showed that the greater the eye contact between two persons, the higher their desire towards each other. When you look at someone continuously, you are trying to initiate some kind of reaction. You get aroused in the process while that person will produce an automatic impression of you.
Try to do this, don’t feel shy. When you talk to that guy or girl, make eye contact as many times as possible. The spark would be created.
3. Be Sincere
These days, sincerity is underrated. You don’t need to do or say something just because it sounds good to the ear or it brings respect.
Do it because it’s what is in your heart and you mean it. Time waits for no one. If you don’t act fast with honesty, things might just pass you by. Never joke about how you feel.
Be real and sincere in whatever you say or do, it is very important.
4. Try To Look Good Always
Your appearance determines who you attract into your life. There is nobody that wants to associate with an unkempt or dirty person. Look nice always and you are a step to getting or attracting that guy or girl of your choice.
I’m not trying to tell you to look a model every time. Just be attractive and take care of yourself so you can attract the people you . They will always want to come close to you and with time there might be chemistry.
5. Go On Dates
Maybe the time spent together is not just enough to initiate or continue the spark between both of you. You need to create that time for the bond between you and your partner to become strong so the emotional connection won’t be lost. This is how the chemistry of love works.
What Does No Chemistry Mean?
This means there is no emotional connection between you and that guy or girl. The connection is usually one-sided which might seem lust. It could also mean the chemical, dopamine, which triggers the feelings in a relationship is completely or partially absent when you are with someone who you seem to .
How Do You Know If You Don't Have Chemistry?
For you to confirm this, you must notice the following:1. You don’t feel happy while that person is around. 2. When you are together, it seems time is moving slowly. 3. It’s hard pleasing each other. 4. Each time you are together physically or via phone call, your ideas don’t connect.
5. There is no understanding.