Tips for Increasing Your Happiness as an Introvert

Are You An Introvert? 8 Ways To Make Introversion Your Superpower

Tips for Increasing Your Happiness as an Introvert

Are you an introvert? Let’s dive into the definition of an introvert and how to leverage your introverted personality.

What is an introvert: Introverts tend to be more quiet and reserved. They seek solitude and prefer introspection to socializing.

However, introversion is a spectrum. All of our personality traits fall on a spectrum. Where do you think you fall?

But what does each label mean? Let’s review the difference between an introvert, extrovert and ambivert:

  • Introvert: Someone who gets energy from solo time and focuses more on internal feelings rather than on external sources of stimulation.
  • Ambivert: Someone who can exhibit qualities of both introversion and extroversion depending on the situation, mood and people they are with.
  • Extrovert: Someone who loves being around people, gets energy from socializing and feels confident with new people.

If you aren’t sure, you could try looking in the mirror. We can tell a lot about someone’s personality from their face. This fascinating study did a drawing of two typical faces:

Most people don’t realize that much of our personality is genetic — in other words, personality is not a choice. You can’t just decide to be more extroverted one day.

This is a headache for many introverts.

Parents send them to camp and say: “Just be more friendly.”

Networking experts say, “Build your network and meet as many people as possible.”

Asking an introvert to be more outgoing is asking them, “Please don’t be yourself.”

No more.

It’s time to use your introversion to your advantage instead of trying to change it.

Are You Really an Introvert?

Not sure if the introvert label really fits you? Have you ever felt an outgoing introvert? Or a social introvert? You might be an ambivert. Take our free quiz to verify:

Take the Quiz

Ok, did our quiz find you are definitely an introvert? Great! Read on for how to harness your power:

↑ Table of Contents ↑

Your Incredible World View

Introverts have a different way of perceiving the world — and this is a huge advantage. The best example is in the classic ‘lemon juice experiment.’

“Introverts were found to salivate more than extroverts when a drop of lemon juice was placed on their tongue.

The researchers theorized that introverts get triggered easily by their surroundings because they naturally possess higher level of arousal, which is why they prefer less intensive activities such as reading and writing rather than partying.

Their preoccupation with their own thoughts is also what separates them from the crowd. Such “inward-orientedness” makes introverts unique souls with much to offer for the world which others often unwittingly overlook.” – Michael Poh

↑ Table of Contents ↑

An Introverted Superpower

Studies have found that introverts are more humble than extroverts. Humility is an incredibly important — and hard to learn trait. It makes introverts more perceptive, more open and less bogged down by ego.

Humility is also associated with the desire to be of service to others.

This makes introverts wonderful leaders, managers and friends.

↑ Table of Contents ↑

Why Introverts Make Amazing Leaders

When you ask someone to think of a highly charismatic person, they will often conjure up an image of a booming extrovert. But charisma comes in many flavors. In fact, introverted traits are very well suited to successful leadership roles. Here’s why:

  • Introverts are wonderful observers. You pick up on social nuances, hidden emotions and team dynamics better than anyone. Don’t take this superpower for granted!
  • When you speak, people listen. Since you tend to think carefully before speaking and use your words carefully, people take you seriously. Don’t ever feel pressured to engage in inane chit chat or make throw away comments to appease others. Speak when you are ready.
  • Your quiet power is contagious.

↑ Table of Contents ↑

Optimize Your Introversion

Don’t let anyone ever tell you to change your introversion–it’s SUCH an advantage. However, it is important for introverts to optimize their introversion for strength.

  • Know exactly how you recharge. Have a big event coming up? Need a refresh? What do you do? Get your pre and post social routine down so you are in control.
  • Find the perfect wingman. Who can be a great social partner for you? Will a friendly extrovert help you break into a crowd or overpower every conversation? Will a fellow introvert be a good partner in crime but discourage meeting new people? Can you find an ambivert to balance you out? Find your best event and socializing partner.
  • Level up your body language…

↑ Table of Contents ↑

Body Language for Introverts

You might not realize it, but even when you are not speaking, your body is saying something. Introverts need to be especially adept at nonverbal communication — both reading cues and sending cues. Here is a quick overview of some body language tips for introverts:

↑ Table of Contents ↑

Tips for Introverts at Work

Have you noticed that many companies are switching to large open workspaces? This can be very hard for introverts. I interviewed my introverted colleague Shelly O’Donovan to get some great tips for introverts:

In a 2015 study by Oseland, it was confirmed that people who scored highly for introversion and neuroticism were more affected by noise than people who scored low on either variable.

In this study, when all participants were asked specifically how noise affects the ability to work, a significant three-quarters of the respondents reported that they are negatively affected by noise in their workplace. Only 10% of participants thought that acoustics in their workplace had a positive effect on their performance.

In addition, there are many studies that show that your choice in working environment is required to suit different activities and personalities. What can you do?

  • Aim for flexibility. If you are a leader in this environment, consider some freedom for your employees. Not everyone thrives in an open environment. Some will get distracted; some will be distractors, while others will flourish. Knowing who needs what is key. As an employee, approach your manager, and in a positive manner ask for some flexibility and explain why you need it. Introverts tend to be thinkers; they often need quiet spaces to contemplate and to crank out work. While extroverts think out loud, they often talk through something before they pen it. This means that introverts could struggle in an open environment if they are not given that flexibility. Flexibility could mean work from home days each week, privacy pods to take calls from or to think through projects, or the ability to use the resources available in the community. One open space organization is championing flexility by allowing its workers to go to the library next door when they need to research a project–not because the library has resources–but because it is quiet.
  • Take care of yourself. Introverts require some quiet time to recharge while extroverts require socialization to recharge. As an introvert, you need that time. For someone who is in that open environment all day, coming home to a busy house or a second job at night can be overwhelming. Build in quiet time for yourself. This could mean spending two hours in open space and then hiding away for 10 minutes in a quiet corner of the cafeteria while you recharge your battery. It could mean that you turn off the radio on your drive home and have some quiet car time or sit in your car at lunch for a break. Take care of yourself and give yourself that time to decompress.
  • Ask to have quiet times. Noise can cause distraction at work. Set aside a few key slots during your day to find a quiet place to work. If you can disappear into a pod for an hour or two you can accomplish amazing amounts of work because you have the peace and quiet to focus on it.
  • Shift your hours. Could you shift your hours an hour or so in either direction? It may not be possible, although if you can, you may be able to get into the office early and start working before it is full. This will give you that quiet time you need to properly focus.
  • Don’t eat at your desk. You need a break from that open environment and lunch is the perfect time. Lunch with a friend outside the office can help you recharge, or go for a walk or a ride in your car. Just sit in a quiet place and recharge! Thriving in any environment means taking care of yourself. It is important to know your personality and what you need to make it work. Give yourself permission to figure that out.

Are you managing introverts or many different personality types? Learn how to be a good manager personality!

↑ Table of Contents ↑

How Introverts Can Be Heard in Meetings

Do you dread meetings? Introverts sometimes dread the open cattle call of meetings — having to brainstorm out loud, being randomly called on or being forced into icebreakers (even if they are non-awkward).

A classic introvert preference is an aversion to meetings.

It may seem justified by the fact that the introvert skill set – one-on-one interaction, confidence to work alone, research and contemplation skills – does not lend itself to a conference room scenario.

However, a truly professional introvert will learn to capitalize on those skills not just in their natural habitat, but in apparently unsuitable contexts such as the business meeting. Here’s the problem:

Not knowing how to excel in the meeting process is holding back your career.

I asked my introverted friend G. John Cole to give me some tips for introverts in meetings. Here’s what he said:

  • Form opinions in advance. As an introvert, you should aim to get your best thinking done before you even enter the room. Get hold of the agenda early, research the topics and the stats, and prepare some thoughts and ideas. You’ll find it much easier to cut in ahead of your outgoing colleagues if you have the confidence to state your take, and the material to back it up.
  • Be first to the meeting room. Build your confidence by getting used to the sound of your voice before you get started. Go over your ideas with a friend or partner so you get to hear them out loud. And show up early for the meeting so that you can build trust with your colleagues face-to-face as they arrive, instead of dreading that moment in the meeting when everyone notices you for the first time.
  • Engage at your own pace. You can build confidence and have a meaningful impact upon the outcome of a meeting by speaking up early. If you get a chance to introduce the meeting or present some research while the mood is still being set, you can create a framework within which your colleagues can develop your ideas. Speak up early – but don’t allow yourself to be rushed. Your mind operates how it operates, and if you’re pressed for a quick response from a colleague who is interested in – or critical of – your idea, responding before you’re ready may end up in disaster.
  • Ask for more time if needed. If you are rushed to give your opinion, calmly state that you need a moment to think, that you’ll get back to them shortly, or that you need to look into the matter after the meeting.
  • Follow up afterwards. Your meeting game doesn’t end with the scraping of chairs and the rush for the coffee machine. You’re an introvert, right? There’s important work to be done from the security of your desk. You can capitalize on that summing-up technique from the end of the meeting by sending out minutes and follow-up emails where appropriate. Don’t make a habit of saving your ideas until the meeting’s over, but if a bit of post-meeting research opens up a fresh angle on your take then by all means share it. It may take you a while to digest new information from the meeting, so if a colleague made a point that you found interesting consider meeting up with them one-on-one to develop the thought further.

Want to get to know your fellow colleagues? Read up on Ambiverts and Extroverts.

Remember: There is no right or wrong personality type. The only right thing to do is to leverage your natural strengths. Your introversion is a gift, never forget it!

Источник: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/introvert/

12 Things Introverts Absolutely Need in Life to Be Happy

Tips for Increasing Your Happiness as an Introvert

I used to feel bad about being an introvert. I wished I could be more my extroverted friends. They had no problem carrying on a conversation with anyone. They didn’t get as mentally and physically fatigued from socializing — and life in general — as I did.

Later in life, when I began studying and writing about introversion, I learned there’s nothing wrong with being an introvert.

Introversion is in your DNA from birth, and our brains are wired a little differently than those of extroverts.

Our minds process things deeply, and because we’re sensitive to the “feel good” neurotransmitter dopamine, we just don’t get “high” off socializing extroverts do.

Because of our wiring, we need somewhat different things in life to be happy, compared to extroverts. Here are 12 of those things. 

1. Plenty of time to wind down and process

Yes, introverts need downtime after big parties and networking events to recharge our energy. But we also need downtime after the “little” things, too.

Because we’re wired to process ideas and events deeply, introverts may get very drained by, say, a stressful day at work, shopping in a crowded mall, or a heated conversation with a significant other.

Time to unwind allows us to fully comprehend what we just experienced — and lower our stimulation level to one that’s more comfortable and sustainable. Without downtime, we’ll feel brain dead, irritable, and even physically unwell or tired.

2. Meaningful conversation

How was your weekend? What’s new with you? We “quiet ones” can do small talk (it’s a skill many of us have forced ourselves to learn), but that doesn’t mean we don’t absolutely loathe it.

 Many introverts crave diving deep, both in our interests and in our relationships.

We need something more: What’s something new you’ve learned lately? How are you a different person today than you were ten years ago? Does God exist?

Not every conversation has to be soul-searchingly deep. Sometimes introverts really do just want to know what you did this weekend. But if we’re only fed a diet of small talk, we’ll feel we’re starving. Without those intimate, raw, big-idea moments, we’ll be unhappy.

3. Companionable silence

It may seem contrary to #2, but introverts also need people in their lives who are content with quiet. People who can sit in the same room with us, not talking, each of us doing our own thing.

People who won’t nervously jump to fill a pause in the conversation but will let thoughts linger, waiting until ideas have been fully digested. Without companionable silence, introverts won’t be happy.

4. Space to dive deep into our hobbies and interests

17th century horror novels. Celtic mythology. Restoring old cars. Gardening, painting, cooking, or writing. If it’s out there, introverts are diving deep into it.

Having time alone to focus on our hobbies and interests recharges us, because while absorbed in them, many of us enter an energizing state of flow.

According to psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi, “flow” is a mental state in which a person is fully immersed in an activity and enjoying the process. A flow state comes naturally to many introverts, and without it, we won’t feel happy.

5. A quiet space that’s all ours

Admittedly, this is something even I don’t have right now. Introverts absolutely need a private, quiet space to retreat to when the world is too loud. Ideally, it’s a room that we can arrange and decorate ourselves, and have full control of. Being fully alone, without fear of intrusion or interruption, is invigorating on a near-spiritual level for introverts.

6. Time to think

According to Dr. Marti Olsen Laney in The Introvert Advantage, introverts may rely more on long-term memory than working memory (for extroverts, it’s the opposite).

This might explain why we introverts struggle to put our thoughts into words. Although words seem to flow effortlessly for extroverts, introverts often need an extra beat to think before responding — or much longer to consider a bigger issue.

Without time to process and reflect, introverts will feel stressed.

7. People who understand that sometimes we’ll be staying home

For introverts, socializing is all about dosage. We need friends and loved ones in our lives who understand that sometimes we just can’t “people” — and they accept this, minus the guilt trip.

8. A deeper purpose to our lives and work

Everyone needs to pay their bills, and for many of us, that’s why we go to work, even if we have to drag ourselves kicking and screaming. And some people are content with this arrangement (or at least tolerate it).

But for many introverts, it’s not enough — we crave work and a life that’s purposeful and meaningful. We want to do more than just earn a paycheck and put a roof over our heads.

Without meaning and purpose in our lives — whether it comes from our job or something else — introverts will feel deeply unhappy.

9. Permission to remain quiet

Sometimes, we just won’t have the energy to interact. Or we’ll be turned inward, doing what introverts do best, which is reflecting and analyzing.

Pointing out, “You’re so quiet!” or prodding us to talk will only make us feel self-conscious. At these times, give us permission to remain quiet — it’s what we need to be happy.

After time to process and recharge, we’ll ly return to you with plenty to say.

10. Independence

Unique and fiercely independent, introverts are more inclined to let their own inner resources guide them than follow the crowd. We do our best work — and are our happiest — when we have the freedom to explore ideas, spend time alone, and be self-directed and independent.

Join the introvert revolution. One email, every Friday. The best introvert articles. Subscribe here.

11. The simple life

I have an extroverted friend who seems to do it all — volunteering at her son’s school, caring for her family, and planning get-togethers for our friends, on top of a full-time job.

As an introvert, I’d never survive that same schedule; besides, the simple life is good enough for me.

A good book, a lazy weekend, a meaningful conversation with a friend — and some snuggles from my animal friends — are what makes me happy.

12. Friends and loved ones who value us despite our quirks

We’re never going to be the most popular person in the room. In fact, in a large group, you might not even notice us at all, as we tend to remain in the background.

Nevertheless, just anyone else, introverts need people in our lives — people who see our value and care for us despite our quirks. We know that at times, we can be difficult to deal with — nobody’s perfect.

When you love and accept us as we are, even when our introverted quirks don’t make sense to you, you’re making our lives profoundly happier.

Introverts, what would you add to this list? Let me know in the comments below.

You might :

Check out my book, The Secret Lives of Introverts: Inside Our Hidden World.

shop.introvertdear.com

Источник: https://introvertdear.com/news/introverts-happy-need/

What Introverts and Extroverts Can Learn From Each Other

Tips for Increasing Your Happiness as an Introvert

“How to Build a Life” is a weekly column by Arthur Brooks, tackling questions of meaning and happiness.

Arthur C. Brooks will discuss the science of happiness live at 11 a.m. ET on May 20. Register for “In Pursuit of Happiness” here.

A year before the pandemic changed all of our lives, a friend sent me a link to a survey academic research that rates your personality traits on a numeric scale.

He was particularly keen to know my extroversion score, to see if the test was accurate. His results had shown that he scored at the 15th percentile. He sent it to me as the most extroverted person he knows.

Sure enough, I scored at the 96th percentile.

“Lucky you,” he remarked, “extroverts are a lot happier.” He was right about that, on average. Decades of research have consistently shown that extroverts have a significant happiness edge over introverts. They report higher levels of general well-being as well as more frequent moments of joy.

COVID-19, however, has given us extroverts our comeuppance. Research published in March in the scientific journal PLOS One studied the impact of the pandemic on people with various personality characteristics. The authors found that mood worsened for extroverts but improved for introverts. As my friend said, only half joking, “Why don’t we just stay locked down forever?”

In ordinary times, American introverts are cats living in Dogland: underappreciated, uncomfortable, and slightly place. A side effect of shutting down the world was to turn it into Catland, at least for a little while. That gave the introverts a chance to lord their solitary comfort over the rest of us, for once. To this I say, “Woof.”

Read: The coming conflict between introverts and extroverts

But the temporary shift has also created a kind of social-science field experiment, highlighting all the ways in which introverts and extroverts can learn from each other. If we take the lessons to heart, we can all benefit.

Psychologists see extroversion as one of the Big Five personality traits, along with agreeableness, openness, conscientiousness, and neuroticism.

The Big Five theory has been a staple of psychology since the 1980s, but the introvert-extrovert binary was first popularized in 1921 by the Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung, who posited that the two groups have different primary life goals.

The former, he thought, seek to establish autonomy and independence; the latter seek union with others. Those stereotypes have persisted to this day.

From the March 2003 issue: Caring for your introvert

The German-born psychologist Hans Eysenck further developed Jung’s theory in the 1960s, arguing that our genetics determine our relative extroversion.

He believed that cortical arousal—that is, the brain’s level of alertness—was more difficult for extroverts than introverts, so the former seek stimulation in the company of others, ideally the fresh company of new people.

Subsequent research has shown mixed results on Eysenck’s specific theory, but has found clear cognitive differences between the groups.

One common explanation for the happiness differential between introverts and extroverts follows from stereotypes Jung and Eysenck’s: Humans are inherently social animals, so contact brings happiness; extroverts seek out contact, so extroverts are happier. The fact that introverts prefer solitude and often struggle with sociability doesn’t mean that avoiding contact makes them happier. It just means they prefer something that makes them unhappy. Nothing strange here—you can also prefer unhealthy food.

There are complementary cultural explanations for the happiness differential.

To begin with, extroversion is highly rewarded in American society, and predicts a significant edge in earning power—on average, extroverts make about $12,000 more per year than introverts.

Extroverts attain other advantages in the workplace as well, such as promotions to leadership positions and high performance evaluations.

Read: When schools overlook introverts

Some resent these patterns, and believe they show a lack of cultural depth.

In her book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, Susan Cain lists the many advances made by introverts—from the theory of gravity to Google—and argues that admiring and rewarding extroversion is not just unfair, but hinders progress. If you ever feel disillusioned by Americans’ habit of elevating egotistical-yet-charismatic leaders, you might have to admit that Cain has a point.

Whether we are introverts or extroverts, we don’t need to regret our sojourn to Catland or dread the return to Dogland. On the contrary, each group can teach the other a lesson that can improve all of our well-being.

1. Introverts should focus more on the future, extroverts do

In 2001, a group of Oxford scholars broke a sample of survey respondents into four groups: happy extroverts, unhappy extroverts, happy introverts, and unhappy introverts. As expected, the happy extroverts outnumbered the happy introverts, by about two to one. But the researchers were more interested in what drove the rare happy introvert’s relatively high well-being.

They found the same characteristics among both happy groups: optimism, a sense of life purpose, and self-esteem. Extroverts, of course, love to talk to others about the future, their dreams, their life’s purpose.

As psychologists have long shown, we tend to act according to the commitments we have articulated to others, so the extrovert habit of telling everyone you meet about your goals makes you more ly to reach them and therefore get happier.

Read: Make room, introverts—everyone needs time to recharge

Happy introverts have figured out how to envision the future without all the (uncomfortable, for them) personal sharing with lots of people. They tend to have close one-on-one friendships instead, where they can share their dreams if and when they choose.

2. Extroverts should work on deep friendships, which introverts tend to have more of

Intimate friendships are not only good for sharing your dreams. They are also a clear and direct producer of happiness. In particular, forging close friendships with people from whom you have nothing to gain is an intense source of satisfaction. But doing so isn’t easy, especially for extroverts, because of their love of crowds, audiences, fresh contact, and excitement.

The pandemic’s pause in life’s rhythms has left society’s dogs in a state of social withdrawal, explaining the current happiness inversion. But it also presents an opportunity for extroverts to cultivate more real friendships introverts have.

While this might not be the natural tendency—research shows that extroverts tend to have a lot of low-depth friendships with other extroverts—it is more optimal for happiness.

Extroverts should set a goal for the next few weeks and months to deepen one friendship before life returns to normal.

Read: Two competing impulses will drive post-pandemic social life

If they don’t know how to begin, they should just watch a happy introvert do it. I am a dog, but my 18-year-old daughter is a cat. She and her closest cat-friend talk for an hour or two every day, making a point to update each other on their life plans. Find your nearest happy cats and act them.

Beyond the specifics of introversion and extroversion, there is one important lesson in all this: Watching and learning from people very different from you is a great way to learn to be happier. Indeed, a love of human diversity of all types, from culture to character to politics, is required for a full education in well-being.

None of us has a lock on the best practices, and surrounding ourselves with people just us will not inspire new ideas to raise our life satisfaction. For the happiest world, we need cats and dogs—together.

«,»author»:»Arthur C. Brooks»,»date_published»:»2021-05-20T10:00:00.000Z»,»lead_image_url»:»https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/5jKpsoDhoQEhWi5FJfmqgHs7u3Q=/0x64:2995×1624/960×500/media/img/mt/2021/05/htbal/original.jpg»,»dek»:null,»next_page_url»:null,»url»:»https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/05/introverts-extroverts-happiness-gap-pandemic/618925/»,»domain»:»www.theatlantic.com»,»excerpt»:»Going against your instincts can help make you happier.»,»word_count»:1,»direction»:»ltr»,»total_pages»:1,»rendered_pages»:1}

Источник: https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/05/introverts-extroverts-happiness-gap-pandemic/618925/

10 Things Introverts Need to Be Happy

Tips for Increasing Your Happiness as an Introvert

It goes without saying that introverts have different needs than extroverts. So today, we’re going to look at ten things introverts need to be happy.

Maybe you’re an introvert looking to add a little more happiness to your life or some solidarity.

Or maybe you’re an extrovert with an introvert in your life you’re interested in helping and supporting.

Here are ten things that are almost guaranteed to improve an introvert’s quality of life.

Time alone

This is number one for a reason! Introverts absolutely need time alone to recharge.

we talked about in Introvert 101, being an introvert means we get our energy from time alone and lose energy when we’re with others.

We can absolutely go out, socialize, and enjoy other people. But we need enough time before and after events to recharge our batteries.

How much time each introvert needs will vary from introvert to introvert and event to event.

Some introverts naturally need more time to recharge than others. You may also need more time if an event is bigger or if you’ve been busier than average.

An opt-out

If you’re inviting an introvert somewhere, give them an out and don’t make them feel guilty for taking it!

Now sure, some events are more important than others. As introverts, we’ve learned when (and how) to suck it up and be there for our friends and family. So if we consider you a friend, know we will do our best to show up for you.

But as introverts, we only have so much energy to give. If you give us an out to a non-essential event, we will love an appreciate you all the more.

And if you’re an introvert, don’t be afraid to take that opt-out. You also should feel free to create one for yourself if you need to.

This may seem selfish at first, but I can assure you it’s not. It’s a form of taking care of yourself. You’re also no good to anyone once you hit zero.

Saying no or cutting an event short is always an option. For more on this, check out how to say no and how to get social events you don’t want to go to.

Understanding and support

The world is genuinely louder, brighter, and more draining for introverts to exist in. When things in our world get extra hectic, we feel it tenfold.

Most of the time, after a busy day at work, we don’t want to go out. We just want to go home and crash on the couch.

And sometimes on the weekends, we don’t want to make plans or go anywhere.

When we’re feeling rundown, we so so appreciate it when the people in our life understand and support our needs–even if they don’t share our needs and even if these needs are inconvenient.

An introvert sanctuary

The first thing on this list was time alone. This time can be made even more enjoyable if you have an introvert sanctuary to retreat to.

Having a space that’s your own and designed to your own introverted comforts will make it so much easier for you to hole up and recharge.

This will not only increase your own happiness but ly the happiness of those you interact with as a result.

For more on how to create an introvert sanctuary, check out this post.

A mode of self-expression

Introverts have a rich inner world.

And while that world can be deep and vibrant, and lead to tons of complex thoughts and ideas, it can sometimes be hard for an introvert to express these things.

As a result, it’s a good idea for introverts to find a way to express themselves and get those thoughts and ideas into the world.

Maybe it’s through art, or writing, or long deep conversations. Whatever your preferred method of expression is, you will undoubtedly be happier if you take the time to figure it out and put it into practice.

An introvert friend

Every introvert needs another introvert to relate to. Since the majority of people in the world are extroverts, it can be easy to feel you’re “wrong” or “abnormal” for wanting to stay home.

It can also feel be frustrating when an extroverted world pushes its expectations and social constructs on you.

Having an introverted friend you can vent to and strategize with can be both validating and grounding.

It’s also nice to know you can hang out with your introverted friend, have a wonderful time and know there will always be an end in sight. Because after a few hours, you will both want to go home.

An (understanding) extrovert friend

Extroverted friends can absolutely make you happier too! We talk a lot on this blog about managing extroverts and extroverted expectations, but that doesn’t mean extroverts aren’t awesome!

As much as we need more time to recharge as introverts, it’s not good for us to stay in all the time. Extroverted friends are amazing at reaching out and getting you your head and your house.

However, it’s important that your extroverted friend understands and respects your introverted needs, while honoring their own needs and desires to socialize and spend time with you.

A manageable social schedule

we touched on in the point above, introverts may need a lot of time to recharge, but socializing is important too!

This can be done in small groups, in low-key settings, or with the occasional bigger, brighter outing.

The key is to know your limits and make sure you build in plenty of recharge time around your work and social activities.

For more on this, check out this post on how to create a manageable social life.

A solo hobby to recharge with

Sometimes, when you’re really run down, recharging may mean laying on the couch and binge-watching a show. But other times, it may be more restorative to have an activity.

Maybe it’s something active hiking, biking, or yoga (see why yoga is good for introverts here). Or maybe it’s more low-key reading, writing, or gardening.

Whatever the activity, give yourself something to look forward to that calms your introverted sensibilities and that you can do completely on your own.

Looking for more in-depth tips on how to build your best, happiest introvert life?

If you want to dig a little deeper into this topic, check out the Introvert Life Guide!

This guide was designed to help you build the introvert life of your dreams.

It will also help you embrace your introverted nature and build a life to help you thrive!

For more introvert life tips, check out the other introvert posts!

Sound off: What do you need to be happy in your introvert life? Tell us about it in the comments!

Pin it up!

Источник: https://createyourownreality.co/10-things-introverts-need-to-be-happy/

Psychologydo
Добавить комментарий

;-) :| :x :twisted: :smile: :shock: :sad: :roll: :razz: :oops: :o :mrgreen: :lol: :idea: :grin: :evil: :cry: :cool: :arrow: :???: :?: :!: