Is Your Relationship Headed for Marriage?

10 Signs Your Relationship Is Headed For Marriage

Is Your Relationship Headed for Marriage?

How do you know the wedding bells will be tolling soon in your current relationship? First, it begins with a strong sense of synchronization between you and your partner. Everything seems to play out just fine when they are around. Secondly, “we” conversations start popping up frequently in conversation or plans.

Also, your relationship may be altar-bound when you start noticing a sense of accountability brewing between you and your partner. The signs are always apparent for you or even observers to note.
While these signs may not always guarantee a successful marriage, they remain telltale signs to look for in your relationship.

So, if you are at a loss about whether your current connection will take you down the aisle, find valuable insights regarding that in this article.

They tell you everything first:

Whether good news or bad, you are their first choice when relaying daily occurrences and events without sparing a single detail. They do this because they believe your opinion towards a particular affair is highly recommend. Also, regardless of what tidings you bear, they are always there to relish the good moments or help you figure out the bad ones.

Furthermore, they seem to trust and believe in your impeccable decision-making process enough to seek your opinions on things. When your partner brings you in the loop of various events in a relationship, it is apparent that they see you as someone with whom they want to spend a long time. Therefore, they feel confident telling you every detail of their lives.

They don’t force changes

Relationships don’t magically fall in place. There will always be specific kinks that need plain ironing out. While a positive change is an impetus for marriage, it is always interesting when you or your partners don’t force changes on each other.

It can be a habit, albeit a bad one you hope your partner should work on. You don’t constantly nag about it or sound condescending. Instead, you take a calm-headed and open-minded approach towards jointly tackling the issue on the ground.

Furthermore, when these habits pop up frequently, both of you can agree on proper ways of figuring affairs out. It can be a visit to the therapist, or you both have a good conversation around the issue.

So, once you or your partner don’t enforce changes from all indications, your relationship is bound for marriage.

 You inspire yourselves

So, if your partner constantly inspires confidence in you, they may see a big picture with you. First, it shows patience towards a struggling partner in a relationship without expecting any praise in return. Second, there is a mutual sense of expressing confidence in a struggling partner.

By gearing them towards getting back on their feet, you show that both of you can jointly see the light at the end of the tunnel regardless of the current situation.
These instances come up in low-yielding jobs, a failed business, or difficulties in achieving an objective.

However the situation may seem, once you have faith in your partner, it’s a telltale sign that things are bound to move fast in the path of marriage.

They discuss plans

Have they ever discussed the number of kids they want to have, what to name them, or their retirement plans? Or, have they thought of possible wedding dresses, venues, what they want to wear, and suitable invites? If your partner starts asking these questions or making these plans, they may be setting their sights on marriage.

In every relationship, daydreaming isn’t unexpected. However, when they discuss these plans with much certainty or set a time threshold, they are keen to walk down the aisle with you.

Take note, these marriage discussions must always be in tandem with your plans, or you may risk suffering a one-sided wedding planning, while you don’t share the enthusiasms, or vice-versa.

They introduce you to their family

One of the early telltale signs of a relationship that might lead to marriage is when they are eager to introduce you to their family. This often stems from a firm conviction that they are with the right person. While this won’t be a quick affair early in the relationship, a red flag can be a reluctance to meet family members.

It is advisable to monitor their reaction so you don’t frighten your partner into the relationship. Regardless, when the feeling is mutual and you are convinced that your partner is ready to meet your family, there may be chances that your relationship is ready for marriage.

Also, the moment you realize you are always welcome at his family gatherings, you can always tell with certainty that your relationship is headed for a wedding.

 You have a lot in common

When everything seems in sync, you can always be sure that marriage is in the works. It’s one of the earliest signs to watch for. After that, everything appears to pan out.

If you will spend the rest of your life with your partner, it must be borne of some shared belief for the rest of your lives.
What you have in common can range from a series of shared ideas, religions, wedding accessories, or some quirks you find humorous.

Furthermore, it can come in the form of some common sense of responsibility that signals a future together for you.


Life is not all rosy. There are times when things don’t just work out. In those times, your partner must be sure to stand by you. When you hit these rough patches, you need a partner that will provide all forms of support you need.

The supports you need ranges from emotional, financial to psychological support. Furthermore, it is best if you are confident that you can confide in them on issues that concern your well-being.
So, you sense that you have a partner that stands by, regardless of how rough things may seem.

It is most ly that they are after a long-term relationship with you.


Everyone treasures his independence. We rarely to submit ourselves or have any sense of responsibility to someone, except if they mean the world to us. It’s human nature to have a sense of responsibility towards an individual or something. It inspires a deep understanding of trust towards that person.

One of the signs your relationship is marriage-worthy is when your partner inspires a sense of accountability and vice-versa. Furthermore, there is a good chance that you can always lower your guard and become more vulnerable around each other with such individuals.

Also, when you begin to take more responsibility for your actions, things may be looking up.

The communication is impeccable

If you want to be with your partner for a long time, you must build a solid rapport in the future. In every relationship, constant and impeccable communication remains the bedrock.

But, first, you must have figured out how your partner expresses themselves, and vice-versa.With a good knowledge of how you express yourself, it is straightforward always to communicate your feelings.

Furthermore, when both of you are good listeners, there are chances that there is room for both of you always to let things off your chest instead of piling them up.

Furthermore, your attitude towards communication matters in the relationship. It covers your reaction when your partner tries to reach you for a conversation. Are you willing to pause for a while to listen with genuine interest? And can they do the same? Once you find that your partner communicates best to your taste, marriage may be a matter of time.


11 Signs He Wants to Marry You (Even You Are at the Early Stages)

Is Your Relationship Headed for Marriage?

Last Updated on July 20, 2021

You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

Warming up

If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

  1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
  2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
  3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

Stay hydrated

Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.


Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

Meditation is a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which ly includes floundering on stage.

Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

2. Focus on your goal

One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

Decide on the progress you’d your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.

3. Convert negativity to positivity

There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

4. Understand your content

Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.

One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

5. Practice makes perfect

most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

Public speaking, any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

6. Be authentic

There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this you normally would with a close family or friend. It is having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting.

A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

Presenters Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

7. Post speech evaluation

Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

Improve your next speech

As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

  • How did I do?
  • Are there any areas for improvement?
  • Did I sound or look stressed?
  • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
  • Was I saying “um” too often?
  • How was the flow of the speech?

Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:


8 Clear Signs Your Relationship Is Getting More Serious

Is Your Relationship Headed for Marriage?

Contributing Sex & Relationships Editor By Kelly Gonsalves Contributing Sex & Relationships Editor

Kelly Gonsalves is a sex educator, relationship coach, and journalist. She received her journalism degree from Northwestern University, and her writings on sex, relationships, identity, and wellness have appeared at The Cut, Vice, Teen Vogue, Cosmopolitan, and elsewhere.

These days, not everyone is too hot on giving their relationship labels, and the stages of courtship aren't as clearly defined as they once were.

Nowadays, many people nonexclusively «hang out» and perhaps have sex with several different people at the same time, floating somewhere in the space between «just talking» and «dating.» Even when exclusivity is in the picture, sometimes people are still «keeping it casual.

» Someone can say they «want to be with you» all the time, but that's not exactly the same as someone saying they're committed to you, right?

What counts as a serious relationship?

«A serious relationship is one in which two people are dedicated to growing together,» relationships and well-being coach Shula Melamed tells mbg. «It can happen quickly, or it can grow over the span of a few years—the critical component is that both people are invested in it and in a similar way.»

That means, yes, serious relationships involve some sort of commitment—though not necessarily a commitment to exclusivity, not necessarily a commitment to get married someday, not necessarily a commitment to be together forever.

(Though for some people, those things might be important!) Everyone might have slightly different needs and preferences, but a relationship that's serious does involve a baseline commitment to continue being together and caring about each other indefinitely.

There's usually a direct conversation about this, according to relationship therapist Aimee Hartstein, LCSW. «They have determined that both individuals are on the same page about the relationship and have labeled it 'serious,'» she tells mbg. «There is an understanding that both people are hoping that the relationship will grow and develop as time goes on.»

Beyond this general framework, most of the other details are specific to the individuals involved in the relationship. If you're not sure where you stand with your partner, you should just ask! Meantime though, here are what relationship experts say are usually some of the clearest signs that your relationship is getting serious and that your connection is getting deeper:

1. Your time together is a sure thing.

Your dates or hangouts are a regular part of your schedule—not something you need to be hoping for, coy about, or negotiating. «You know that you both want to be seeing each other on a regular basis,» Hartstein says. 

«They text you back; they make and keep plans; so do you,» Melamed adds. «Attendance is mandatory in a serious relationship—you need to show up every damn day. This is the first glimpse of that commitment.

» (Not that you need to hang out every day—but whether or not you're going to be spending time together soon is not up for debate or whether your schedule permits. You're going to make the time.

2. You drop the formalities.

Most people want to make a good impression on their partner in the early stages of the relationship. They might dress their best, go their way to be romantic or generous, and perhaps brush conflict under the rug to keep the energy in the relationship positive. 

You know your relationship is actually getting serious when you stop doing that, explains licensed clinical marriage and family therapist Weena Cullins.

«Most of us are extra polite, accommodating, and flexible in the early stages of a relationship,» she explains. «When you finally feel comfortable enough to let your partner see your not-so-nice side, you are expressing a desire to be truly known and accepted for who you really are. This is a sign that you would to develop a deeper connection with your partner.»

3. You begin to develop rituals.

Maybe it's making brunch together on Saturday mornings or going for a post-work jog together a few times a week. Maybe there's an unspoken understanding that you always try trendy new restaurants with each other and no one else. Maybe it's just that they bought you your own toothbrush and house slippers for when you sleep over at their place. 

«Slipping into a comfortable rhythm, routine, or pattern of behavior with your partner is a sign of deeper connection. When you intentionally form habits with another person, it indicates that you are open to moving forward together,» Cullins says.

4. Your sex life is evolving.

«Some couples have tremendous sexual chemistry from the start while others have to slowly develop an understanding of each other's sexual tempo. As you become more in tune with your partner in other areas of the relationship, intimacy and sexual experiences can also take on a new meaning for both of you,» Cullins explains. 

5. You know each other's inner circle. 

Hartstein and Melamed both emphasize the symbolic nature of getting to know your partner's family: «This is a step that most people don't take unless they are feeling serious and hopeful about their partner,» Hartstein says.

Melamed adds that spending a lot of time with each other's close friends can also say a lot about the strength and promise of your relationship. «These people know your name and who you are in [your partner's] life,» she says. «This person is showing and sharing their world with you—which is a pretty good indication they would to bring you into it.»

6. Caring about each other is an open priority. 

There are no games here. Neither of you is shy about the nature of your feelings for each other, and it's understood and expected that you both care about each other very deeply. 

«You each take the time to figure out what makes the other happy, and you are happy to do those things. Caring for each other feels less scary or anxiety-provoking when you want to invest in something more long term,» Melamed says.

7. You can handle disagreements and conflicts. 

Your relationship doesn't almost fall apart every time you disagree, nor are either of you working hard to avoid confronting conflicts because you don't want to fight. Temporary discord is accepted as a normal and healthy part of your relationship, Melamed says, and it ultimately helps you two get closer to each other in the process. 

«Serious relationships are both sturdy and resilient,» Cullins says. «They can endure petty disagreements, hard conversations, change, and some forms of outside interference. Even when you become mad, confused, and frustrated by your partner, you discover there is a mutual desire to continue working toward understanding and togetherness.»

8. You two can openly talk about the nature of your relationship.

«[When people are in a serious relationship], they aren't freaked out to discuss things the future, the status of your relationship, nonnegotiables in partnership, hopes, dreams, and how they specifically feel about all these topics,» Melamed says. «They are able to take these conversations from hypothetical to how it applies to you, them, and the two of you.»

That willingness to go deep and have some vulnerable conversations in and of itself is a «good sign of growing intimacy,» she adds. 

Seriously—if you're wondering whether your relationship is serious or not, just have the conversation. If your partner is reluctant to talk about it, you have your answer. But if you two are on the same page, the conversation will flow easily.


6 Signs Your Relationship Is Moving In The Direction Of Marriage

Is Your Relationship Headed for Marriage?

There is more written on the signs that your marriage is headed for divorce court these days that few are looking at the alternative—when you are headed for the altar.

How do you know that your relationship is going to be ever-lasting?  In the realm of the courtship dance, there are significant junctures that designate that a connection is moving in the direction of marriage. Do you remember yours?

Connection is about moments and moving towards commitment involves a trail of them. In listening to marriage vows yesterday at a wedding of first-timers I heard them share the ‘moments’ that they each felt that their bond grew stronger and each one’s moment that they indeed knew he/she was the one.

When you recall those memories, they might include one or more of the following, many that I witnessed yesterday.

1. When your steps become in-sync

In the journey towards connection there is attunement. When you start finishing each other’s ideas, anticipate each other’s needs and become each other’s anchor there is movement in that direction.  Seemingly unromantic, Dana announced . .

“It was at the moment one morning that he put my clothes in his dry-cleaning bag that I knew it was going to be a while”.

For Stu, that moment came when Dana called for an urgent doctor’s appointment for him on a day he had a big business meeting. It is within these moments that the “I” becomes “we” and the “you” becomes “us”; the couple-ship is forming.

2. When you reach for your partner before anyone else

When you realize that you reach for your partner before anyone else, you discover that your partner is your best friend. In the beginning, all relationships are obsessional and according to Dr. Helen Fisher, love is an addiction.

You are the most important people to each other and sometimes the only people for a while in each other’s lives. That partners value each other—at least at the outset—to the exclusion of others, is a sign of early couple-ship development.

When couples remove themselves, albeit temporarily, from their world, it is not always a bad sign. It is soon enough that they re-enter their world a bit differently, now as a pair and not as individuals. Their shifting or relationship priorities is a sign that they are headed to spend their lives together.

According to Peter . .

“I noticed that I would isolate Jan alone and was worried that it was unhealthy but after a few months I re-introduced her into my circles . . . that’s when I knew that she would be around for a long while”.  

For Jan, it was something else . .

“When I was told of some extensive dental work that was needed I went right to Peter instead of my mom.”

3. When he/she becomes your accountability partner

As the dance continues, steps become more synchronized. In a forming relationship, partners become each other’s accountability partner. They ‘check in’ on each other which is a healthy and defining part of a relationship and partners.

Those who do this are being responsible to each other first.  The “GM” and “GN” texts are a part of this, welcoming the day and acknowledging the separation in the early stages.

Relationships that are taking those steps are signs that things are becoming serious.

For Gwen, the reporting of medical news was an important moment . .

“When I got the call from Doug following the visit to his orthopedic surgeon I realized …it was at that moment I knew that Doug cared about me enough to share this timely information and we were become a unit”.

This check in for her was a sign of his increasing love and affection.

4. When you have the “us talk”

Heading to the altar is precipitated by increasing amounts of ‘us’ talk-that is, you consider yourselves a couple-ship. Going from the ‘I’ to the ‘we’ is significant in that it defines the space of the couple.

For Sara, it was on an airplane as they were getting ready to depart . .

“When I overheard Dan ask the airplane steward if they could move to seats up front because “‘we’ have a short layover”, I heard something in his voice and at that moment, I stepped a bit closer to him in our union.”

5. When you shut down your online dating apps

When Amanda decided to check she knew it was the right time. She had been there on the app periodically to pursue her new hits and randomly check for Jordan’s online status. But now she no longer felt the need to have her options open or keep checks on her partner.

That said, shutting down your online dating and dating apps is a sign that your relationship is at least headed for monogamy, a precursor, typically, to the altar.

Although people today when dating often ‘leave their options open’ as it is way too easy with the access we have with dating apps.

Once those are closed the deal is done at least in the mind of one, which often leads to the other doing the same.

Amanda reported . . .

“We had ‘the talk’ and I asked Jordan about his online presence, which I pretty much knew from periodic checks. He said he was no longer needing to look and was shutting down his account. For me, that was a critical step.”

6. When you truly believe in each other

Probably the single most important aspect to a healthy connection is the notion that partners believe in each other.  When Stephanie realized that Jake would help her get through their weekend with her family she knew she could turn to him for anything.

“When he told me he would be joining me, knowing how challenging being home would be, and that he would be a buffer I knew he was there for the long run”.

As we start to connect we find ourselves taking our partner’s advice. Respect, admiration or even temporary idealism-the ‘I believe in you’, begins to take form. Respect is paramount and when that develops, especially along with the other signs. It could mean that a more permanent situation is in form.

Age, attractiveness, intelligence and success doesn’t really matter. Neither does the bedroom; as a sex-therapist, it doesn’t surprise me that these moments are rarely about sex. It’s the moments of connection that matters. It is those moments and more as we grow together that we need to hold onto and remember.


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