- 12 Actions You Can Take to Become a Better Person and a Better Leader
- 1. See yourself for who you are.
- 2. Forgive and let go of anger.
- 3. Accept responsibility.
- 4. Admit when you are wrong and apologize.
- 5. Be a good listener.
- 6. Be polite.
- 7. Have respect for others (and yourself).
- 8. Set goals for yourself.
- 9. Live with integrity.
- 10. Recognize opportunities to grow and change.
- 11. Be part of a community.
- 12. Embrace the journey.
- How to Become a Better Person: A 7-Step Guide
- List Your Fears, Weaknesses and Shortcomings
- Make Your Goals Achievable
- Take Care of Yourself
- Get a New Job
- Communicate Better
- Think About Other People
- Keep Improving
- 9 Ways to Be a Better Person And Be Happy
- 1. Be Willing to Change
- 2. Stop Making Excuses
- 3. Stop Being Angry
- 5. Forgive Someone
- 6. Listen to People
- 8. Do Something You Don’t Want To
- 9. Surprise Someone Special
- More Tips for Self-Improvement
- 15 Simple Life Changes You Can Make to Become a Better Person
- 1. Think Before You Speak
- 2. Embrace Change
- 3. Be Grateful
- 4. Do the Right Thing
- 5. Use Your Strengths
- 6. Address Your Weaknesses
- 7. Take Care of Yourself
- 8. Be a Hero
- 9. Pay Attention to Others
- 10. Stop Being Wasteful
- 11. Be Curious
- 12. Forgive Yourself and Others
- 13. Don’t Be Impatient
- 14. Be Yourself
- 15. Stop Pointing Fingers
12 Actions You Can Take to Become a Better Person and a Better Leader
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There are certain universal aspirations we’re all hoping to attain in our lifetime. We all want happiness, success, love and prosperity. Most of us believe that if we could just do things a little better, improve ourselves a little more, we would become a better person capable of achieving our dreams.
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Sounds good, right? Who doesn’t want to be a better person? The truth is, none of us is perfect and we never will be. But that doesn’t mean we should give up on self-improvement — we are all on a journey of becoming the person we want to be. Here are 12 concepts to help you along the way to becoming the best possible version of yourself.
1. See yourself for who you are.
Your journey to becoming a better person starts with understanding who you are at your core. This is about becoming more in tune with your deeper self, so you recognize what riles you up, what makes you happy or sad. How do you deal with your emotions? How do you react when life goes astray?
Take stock of your strengths but also of your weaknesses. What are your negative qualities? What areas do you excel in? What areas do you need to work on in your personal growth and development? When we truly understand ourselves, we can make a conscious effort to improve ourselves and communicate better with others.
Related: Being Boss Means Being Able to See Yourself as Others See You
2. Forgive and let go of anger.
When we forgive we let go of anger and hostility that eats away at our happiness and clouds our mind. Forgiving someone who has hurt you empowers you to let go of the pain from the past. It doesn’t mean you forget what happened; rather, it means you learn to release resentment and anger, which would otherwise be a burden on your mind and heart.
Releasing negative thoughts allows you to heal emotionally, gives you peace and helps you overcome depression, anxiety and rage that create conflicts within our relationships. Festering anger impacts your mental and physical health, with symptoms such as difficulty sleeping, a weakened immune system and heart disease.
Related: 8 Steps to Move Away From the Past You Need to Leave Behind
3. Accept responsibility.
Stop blaming others when things don’t go right. A key element in growing as an individual and becoming a better person is learning to accept personal responsibility for your actions, including your behaviors, emotions and failures — everything you have control over.
We often put the blame on others, sometimes so subtly we hardly realize we’re doing it. We make excuses for ourselves and why something isn’t our fault.
You take control of your life when you accept that you alone are responsible for your actions. To take this a step further, ask yourself whether you’re taking responsibility for creating the life you want, for becoming the person you want to be. Or are you just letting life happen and then blaming the world for your failures?
Related: If You Want Greatness, Take Responsibility
4. Admit when you are wrong and apologize.
When we apologize we show empathy for the wronged person. We acknowledge our mistakes. When we truly try to make amends, we show humility and compassion for those we have hurt. This has the ability to disarm those we mistreated and to heal their emotional wounds, but it can also help us heal. It’s impossible to move beyond a mistake until we admit it to ourselves and to others.
Apologizing allows us to reconnect and move forward. When someone apologizes to us, it’s a chance to see them as imperfect yet vulnerable, and reminds us that we are all human and we all make mistakes.
Related: The Power of an Apt Apology
5. Be a good listener.
Listening to others, and really hearing them out with an open mind, is one of the best things you can do for another person and for yourself. It shows the speaker that you value their opinion. It allows you to develop closer connections to others and hear perspectives you might otherwise dismiss.
We should try to engage in active listening with all the people who surround us, not just those we want to impress. Being an effective listener can change your life for the better by fostering deeper relationships and exposing us to thoughts, ideas and worldviews beyond our own experiences.
Related: The 4 Levels of Listening: Why Every Good Entrepreneur Should Talk Less
6. Be polite.
Being polite is a small act of kindness we can do for everyone we come across. It is not a trivial thing.
There is power behind saying “thank you” and “please,” giving someone a warm greeting or taking time to make small talk.
These little things instill positive feelings in those around you, especially when you first meet. Different situations will call for different levels of politeness and formality.
Grabbing a coffee or a drink with a friend will be a more casual situation with more relaxed language than a formal dinner or a work meeting. But maintaining a certain level of politeness and civility is always appreciated because it shows thoughtfulness, consideration and kindness.
Related: Good Manners Are a Career and Business Necessity
7. Have respect for others (and yourself).
Being respectful of others is a golden rule if we want to become better people, and it also relates to basically every other point on this list. It goes beyond treating others with good manners and listening to them, although those are important elements of respect. Respect is also about acknowledging differences in a cordial way.
It’s important to be respectful of other people’s time, ideas, experiences and lifestyles. By showing respect, we acknowledge others and recognize the importance of treating others with integrity.
It doesn’t mean you have to flatter them or agree with their opinions. You can respectfully disagree.
But if you do this while treating the other person with dignity, you set the example of how you expect to be treated in return.
Related: Respect: The Cornerstone of Success
8. Set goals for yourself.
Goals give us focus and a way to measure our progress. Goals motivate us to stay on track. Start by writing your goals down. Those who write down their goals and dreams are more ly to actually achieve them.
What are your personal and professional goals? Where do you see yourself in five years? In 10 years? And what kind of person do you want to be then? Frame these goals positively — as something you will do rather than something you will stop doing.
Related: The 7-Step Formula for Goal Setting
9. Live with integrity.
Personal integrity is a cornerstone of who we are and what we stand for. Integrity is part of our moral foundation: the principles and ideas we value and hold dear. Integrity is your personal compass, and it will shape the kind of person you become over time.
Living with integrity means being true to your ideals. It means that your outward actions reflect your inner beliefs and values. It means making the choices that are necessary to live up to your standards. Make sure you take the time to understand what integrity means to you and how your decisions align with your values and vision for your life.
Related: The Importance of Integrity: Now More Than Ever
10. Recognize opportunities to grow and change.
Life is filled with unexpected twists and turns we can’t predict. We can’t help but be a little scared of change because the unknown is always a little frightening.
That fear can hold us back and, without realizing it, you may be stunting your growth personally and professionally.
Allowing yourself to grow and evolve over time is a necessary part of life and part of the journey you are on.
Don’t turn away from new opportunities or shirk your responsibilities. Be willing to take a chance and push yourself outside of your comfort zone, and you may be surprised at what you find. Always strive to keep learning new things — education and experience are essential if you are to grow and become a well-rounded and better person.
Related: 5 Ways Personal Growth Makes Your Business Stronger
11. Be part of a community.
Community can be a geographical location where people live, play and work, but it can also be a virtual space where people connect through shared ideas, values, beliefs and needs. However you define community, it’s important that you find ways to be part of a larger group, and you may even be part of many different communities depending on your interests and background.
Community provides us with support, giving us a feeling of inclusion and connection to other -minded people. But it also gives us a way to give back, to help others and to share our own wisdom and knowledge. This includes volunteering and working with others within your community, helping to enrich the lives of those around you.
Related: Why Building Community Is More Important Than Networking
12. Embrace the journey.
Remember, this is an ongoing journey. Our actions — how we live, how we spend our time — those things all add up. Recognize that not everything in life is linear. Sometimes we have to go backward to go forward. Along the way, we have to learn to appreciate what we have, to have gratitude for all life has given us.
Remember to have some fun, and allow fun (and happiness) to be sprinkled throughout your day. Life should not be dreary, so don’t let it be. Surprise yourself and others. Remember to show kindness and compassion to those around you. Try to be a role model to others and behave the way you want others to see you and remember you.
How to Become a Better Person: A 7-Step Guide
Everyone makes mistakes, but sometimes, when you reflect on what you have accomplished, how you have behaved and what you have to show for it, you think: I should be better.
The good news is that it is never too late to change. If you are hell-bent on becoming a better person — whatever that might mean to you — you can always gain the skills necessary to do so. Here is a step-by-step guide for improving yourself in every way, so you feel better about who you are.
List Your Fears, Weaknesses and Shortcomings
To begin, sit down with a pen and paper and start listing all the things you are afraid of. Then, list the things you are bad at, and try to figure out why. You shouldn’t rush through this process; you should give yourself a week or more to ruminate on all the ways you aren’t your best.
This seems counter-intuitive. Why would you start your journey to becoming better by cutting yourself down? In truth, listing these so-called flaws is the only way you can improve yourself because it allows you to see where you are deficient.
Furthermore, not only should you complete your own inventory of fears, weaknesses and shortcomings, but you should also ask close friends and family members to perform the same inventory for you.
If you approach this practice with the right mindset, the items they return to you won’t be hurtful; they will help you on your path to self-improvement.
Make Your Goals Achievable
Next, you should look at these assembled lists and start developing goals to make yourself better.
However, not just any goals will do. For example, if you find that you are weak in the area of generosity — i.e. you rarely give of yourself to benefit others — your goal shouldn’t be “to be more charitable.” Rather, you need to be SMART with your goals:
- S: specific, significant, stretching
- M: measurable, meaningful, motivational
- A: attainable, action-oriented, agreed-upon
- R: relevant, reasonable, rewarding, results-oriented
- T: time-bound, tangible, trackable
Therefore, a better goal for improving generosity might be “to donate 6 percent of your income to a local charity by this time next year.”
Take Care of Yourself
You’ll never stick to your overarching goal of bettering yourself if you don’t feel your best.
Thus, you need to ensure you are healthy — mentally and physically. You might take the time to schedule a doctor’s appointment to undergo a physical. Adults who do this often learn that they need to pay closer attention to their cholesterol or that their blood pressure is too high.
You might also acquire a physical trainer or nutritionist, who can more effectively guide you toward your fitness goals.
If necessary, you should also pay a visit to a counselor or therapist, who can address any underlying mental disorders that require treatment or medication. Once you have your health sorted, you will be better equipped to enhancing yourself.
Get a New Job
Many people aren’t good people because they aren’t happy at work.
Career dissatisfaction can arise from a variety of issues, from insufficient pay and benefits to boring or tedious everyday tasks. If you find yourself dreading going to work — even dreading going to sleep because you’ll have to wake up and go to work — it is probably well past time for a new job.
Before you start applying to similar employers, you should consider whether you are unhappy with your current position or whether you are unhappy on your current career track.
If it’s the latter, you might want to return to school to become qualified in a career that better suits your passions — and a career that makes you feel a good person.
For instance, you could look at CACREP-accredited online programs, which will prepare you for a career in counseling, or you could go into some sort of non-profit work. Regardless of the path you choose, you should ensure the job you find makes you feel excited to work.
One of the easiest ways to become a better person is to become a whiz at communication.
Poor communication causes problems, which in turn cause stress and anguish in you and those around you. There are a few big communication mistakes you can avoid making to improve everyone’s experience, such as failing to explain your feelings or failing to pay attention to your tone and body language.
You can practice improving your communication skills anytime and everywhere; there is no excuse for being a bad communicator if you want to call yourself a good person.
Think About Other People
You are focused on improving yourself — and that means thinking more about other people.
Good people aren’t self-centered; they are outward-facing, paying attention to others’ thoughts and feelings. The best sort of people devote some of their resources, be that time, energy, money or material goods, to others, perhaps by volunteering or donating to charities or else by helping friends, family and strangers.
Even when you are tired, stressed, sick or otherwise disinclined to put others before yourself, you should at least factor their comfort and happiness into your behavior. That way, people will always think of you as good.
See our pages on Emotional Intelligence for more.
Finally, the first time you hear someone call you “good” shouldn’t be the last time you think about trying to be better.
Self-improvement is a constant struggle; there is no finish line or summit that tells you when you are done.
One good action does not a good person make, so you need to strive to be good in the majority of your behaviors to earn a positive reputation. Fortunately, doing good does eventually transform into being good.
If you are actively good for long enough, you will ly find that goodness becomes a habit that you can’t live without.
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9 Ways to Be a Better Person And Be Happy
Last Updated on December 4, 2020
Everyone wants to become a better person, but some people just don’t know how.
At the end of each day, I to reflect and see what I can do to become a better person. Not only that, but I have a goal of leaving an imprint on the world for doing great things. By setting aside some time each day to reflect on what behaviors were good and bad, I have the opportunity to grow.
Growing up, I wasn’t the nicest kid. I would make fun of others, I was selfish, and I thought the world revolved around me. Fast-forward a few years and I’ve grown tremendously. I’m no longer the annoying child I was because I have grown and learned what becoming a better person means.
After learning what it means to be a better person, I’ve been able to develop my persona into someone I don’t mind being. I am a lot happier with who I am and I would have no problem telling my future kids the type of person I am.
So, how to be a better person?
Here are 9 ways to become a better person through self-development:
1. Be Willing to Change
In order to become a better person, you have to be willing to change.
Change is the only way to grow and progress into the person you want to become. Many people are against change, which can make it very hard to grow.
When you keep an open mind and are willing to change, you are able to grow into the person you want to become.
Here’s How to Overcome Your Resistance to Change for a Better Self.
2. Stop Making Excuses
When I first started my company in high school, I made excuses every time something went wrong. I would blame others, blame the customer, or anyone else involved. However, I would never blame myself for things that went wrong.
Instead, I learned that taking accountability for your own mistakes is extremely important. I stopped making excuses, took the blame when it was truly my fault, and was able to achieve so much more. By understanding that I made a mistake, I was able to use my mistakes to learn which in turn helped me become a better person.
If you find it difficult to stop making excuses for yourself, take a look at this article: 7 Ways to Eliminate Your Excuses
3. Stop Being Angry
Many people let anger and rage alter their decision-making skills. I used to be an angry person growing up, but I only saw it damage relationships with people and increase my blood pressure.
Controlling anger is an extremely difficult skill to master, but it is very beneficial. Instead of getting angry, I decided to find a way to change my negative emotion. Staying angry doesn’t help me or solve any problems, it only creates more of them.
Find some way of relaxing your nerves when you’re angry, a stress ball was very helpful for me. Maybe one of these would work for you too: 40 Simple And Brilliant Ways To Relax and De-stress
Sometimes, you need to be a role model to someone to really get your act together. Once I became an entrepreneur and people started to look up to me, I became a lot more cautious about the way I behaved. I didn’t want to disappoint people by showing them I was immature or a bad role model.
You can start small and be a “big brother” to someone, coach a kids’ team, or be a role model to your children. No matter what you choose to do, always make decisions that the person looking up to you will respect.
5. Forgive Someone
Forgiving someone who hurt you is very difficult to do. When I got upset at someone for doing something, I could never forgive them. Even if it was a petty thing, I would hold it against them for the rest of their lives which was not healthy.
I quickly learned that humans are prone to making mistakes. Instead of holding mistakes against them for life, try to forgive someone. To become a better person, go through your past and forgive someone that did something to hurt you.
If you’re struggling to forgive someone, take a look at this guide: How to Forgive and Live a Happy Life Again (A Step-By-Step Guide)
6. Listen to People
People are extremely busy with their careers, families, and lives. Everyone is in a rush, but people rarely ever have time to listen to what others have to say. I learned that listening to people and giving everyone a voice is one of the greatest things you can do.
I got to meet some of the most amazing people, close some of the biggest deals, and develop connections that will last me a lifetime all because I took time to listen to people.
Being a good listener can change your life in a positive manner. Try these tips: How to Practice Active Listening (A Step-By-Step Guide)
Honest people are hard to come by nowadays. However, honesty is the best remedy for any situation. Promise yourself that you won’t tell any lies for a month straight.
Challenge yourself to be honest by developing good habits. If you’re a compulsive liar, start small by trying to be honest for 1 day. After you accomplish a smaller goal, increase the goal by 2 or 3.
8. Do Something You Don’t Want To
Keeping an open mind and trying things that you wouldn’t normally do is a very easy way to become a better person. Take a risk and challenge yourself to try something you’ve always been scared to do. You’ll only live your best life once you step out — here’s why.
Growing up, I was terrified of roller coasters. However, I eventually gave in as a teenager and had the time of my life. I would have never experienced roller coasters unless I had been willing to get over my fear and give it a shot. That one experience has led me to try numerous other new things.
9. Surprise Someone Special
Do you have a loved one in your life? Whether it’s your spouse/romantic partner, your children, or a family member, plan a special surprise for them. If you know someone who deserves a nice vacation or a new gift, go buy it for them.
One of the most rewarding feelings in the world are knowing that you made someone smile. Surprise the special someone in your life by doing something the ordinary for them!
More Tips for Self-Improvement
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15 Simple Life Changes You Can Make to Become a Better Person
Most of us want to be a better person—whether at home, in the office, or just when we’re out running errands. The problem is where exactly do you start?
I realized a couple years ago that I was a jerk at times to people I worked with and to people I feel I couldn’t get any value . Over the past couple years I’ve become a much better person by working on myself.
Here are some of the things I’ve been implementing into my daily routine to become a better person on a daily basis.
1. Think Before You Speak
Words can carry a lot of weight. Think about the first time your significant other told you that he or she loved you. How awesome did that feel? However, words can also be hurtful. Have you ever told an inappropriate joke or called someone a bleeping-bleep? You probably felt pretty lousy afterward.
Always take the couple extra seconds to think about the impact of your words before you say them out loud.
2. Embrace Change
Change helps us grow as individuals. Instead of resisting change, you should be open to trying new things, even if they scare you. For example, you may be nervous about trying that new Thai restaurant in town, but you might discover your new favorite restaurant.
Besides embracing change, you should also advocate for positive change. You could start a food drive or recycling program at the office, which would both make your community a better place.
3. Be Grateful
According to research, those who have gratitude journals are more optimistic and feel better about their lives. Additionally, those who discuss gratitude are less envious of wealthier people, are more willing to help others, and can prevent health concerns coronary artery disease.
4. Do the Right Thing
As an adult, you should definitely know the difference between right and wrong. Let’s say you don’t clean up after your dog after taking it for a walk. You don’t need someone to remind you that you should clean up the mess. You know that it’s your responsibility and that it’s not fair to leave it there for someone else to step in.
5. Use Your Strengths
Remember, your skills and talents are a gift. Don’t let them go to waste. If you know how to play the guitar, then share it with others. It will bring joy to you and the people in your life.
6. Address Your Weaknesses
At the same time, you also should be aware of your weaknesses. It’s another way that helps us grow as individuals. Take the time to make a list of your weaknesses and set goals to work on them.
I am a hard person to deal with. I realize this. Learn to admit and address your weaknesses and then find ways to make them better.
7. Take Care of Yourself
Exercise. Eat healthy. Get enough sleep. You’ve heard that advice a thousand times before. But taking care of yourself is one of the best ways to make yourself a better person.
For example, how can you go outside and play with your kids when you always feel lethargic? How can you be more productive at work when you’re exhausted? Not only will you be happier and more productive, your loved ones and colleagues will also appreciate it.
8. Be a Hero
That doesn’t mean that you have to put on a pair of tights and cape. It means helping an elderly neighbor with the groceries. Opening doors for others. Buying a cup of coffee for the person in front of you when her card gets declined. Listening to a friend when his relationship just ended.
9. Pay Attention to Others
Doesn’t it feel great when someone asks how your day went? Try and do the same for others. Even if you have to jot down reminders in your calendar, it can make all the difference in the world to someone when you follow up with them on important events.
10. Stop Being Wasteful
Just because you can have five plates of food at an all-you-can-eat buffet doesn’t mean that you have to—waste is a problem for the food service industry.
You can also reduce water usage by taking shorter showers and create less trash by recycling. And, don’t forget that unplugging devices when not in use can save electricity.
During your part, no matter how small it may seem, can be really important for the environment.
11. Be Curious
Evidence, shared via The Huffington Post, found that curiosity can help strengthen relationships, keep your brain stimulated, lessen anxiety, keep you happy, and help you learn—even uninteresting subjects.
12. Forgive Yourself and Others
Humans make mistakes—even when it’s you who makes the mistake. And sometimes those mistakes really sting. However, instead of devoting your energy holding onto that mistake or feeling guilty, forgive that individual—or yourself—and focus on the future. Remember, revenge isn’t good for your health, and the best revenge is your is success and happiness.
13. Don’t Be Impatient
When we get impatient, we get aggravated and may do something we’ll regret. Ask yourself, how do you feel if you yelled at your child or a colleague because you’re in a rush to get out the door in the morning or finish a project? By practicing patience you’ll not only make better decisions, you’ll feel better about yourself every day.
14. Be Yourself
When you’re authentic, you’ll be more focused, build courage, establish your own identity, and be able to define your values and beliefs.
15. Stop Pointing Fingers
I’ll never forget a grade school teacher telling the class, “When you point one finger, there are three fingers pointing back to you.” We all face obstacles in life, but you can’t use that as an excuse to hold you back or to grow as person.
In the words of author and motivational speaker Jack Canfield:
“Remember, you and you alone are responsible for maintaining your energy. Give up blaming, complaining and excuse making, and keep taking action in the direction of your goals—however mundane or lofty they may be.”
Part of life is growing and becoming a better person—each and every day. What steps are you working on to improve your life?