Grief vs. Depression: Which Is It?

Grief and Depression: Sorting Out the Differences

Grief vs. Depression: Which Is It?

When you lose someone you love, you grieve. It may feel depression. After awhile, it may become depression.

But the two can be complicated and the terms used interchangeably, when in fact they can be quite separate. Just because you grieve doesn’t necessarily mean you are depressed.

Knowing the differences between the two can help. So can bereavement services in San Mateo and elsewhere.

Grief and depression share many similar symptoms. That being said, it’s important to note that each one is a separate and distinct experience.

It’s equally important to make this distinction because the treatment options are very different. If you suffer from depression, it can save your life to get a diagnosis and seek treatment.

On the other hand, grief is a normal reaction to loss, something many people have to go through naturally to heal, points out Very Well Mind.

How They Compare

What makes it so confusing is that there are so many similarities between the two, such as:

  • Intense sadness
  • Weight loss
  • Poor appetite
  • Insomnia

On top of that, grief can morph into complicated grief, which does not go away in time and can resemble depression in many ways. Some people with complicated grief may even have self-destructive or suicidal tendencies, similar to those with depression.

How They are Different

The main difference here is that most forms of grief tend to decrease over time, coming on in waves triggered by reminders of a loved one.

So you may feel OK one day, such as when surrounded by friends and family, but then the next day you’re right back where you started because it was your loved one’s birthday, or perhaps you attended a wedding and it brought back memories of your own wedding to your spouse.

Grief is marked by intense sadness, irritability, anger, and difficulty accepting the fate of a loved one. The sting of these feelings tends to lessen a bit over time.

Depression is different in that it is persistent and pervasive. There may be thoughts of suicide, feelings of worthlessness, hallucinations, and prolonged difficulty participating in daily tasks.

Another main difference between the two is that grief is associated with a specific event or loss of a loved one, but with depression, there isn’t always an identifiable loss. In grief, the focus is on the loss; in depression, the focus is on self. In grief, self-esteem is usually not affected; in depression, loathsome feelings toward oneself are generally present.

There’s no medical treatment for grief, in general, unless it is so severe that it interferes with daily living, in which case anti-anxiety medication may be prescribed. If the grief is interfering with sleep over a long period of time, sleep aids may be prescribed. If the person is diagnosed with major depressive disorder (MDD), they may be given anti-depressants.

Common Stages of Coping With Loss

There are typical, common stages of grief that most people go through. They include:

  • Denial, numbness, shock, anger: Numbness is normal when losing someone, and shouldn’t be confused with the person not caring. Grief protects us from the enormity of the loss we have suffered. It’s a built-in defense mechanism that keeps us from experiencing the intensity of the loss all at once, says WebMD. This comes in handy when the bereaved have to plan a funeral, make financial decisions, notify relatives, etc. We gradually get through the experience and begin to slowly acknowledge the true impact; however, that initial denial will fade. You may also feel angry initially that your loved one left you all alone.
  • Bargaining: This is when the person constantly mulls over what they could have done to prevent the death or other loss, such as divorce, job loss, etc. If the person fails to properly deal with and resolve these feelings, they may live with pervasive feelings of guilt that can interfere with the healing process.
  • Depression: This is when the true extent of the loss settles in, usually after all the well wishers have gone back to their own lives and you are left to rebuild your life. You may feel fatigue, lack of energy, self-pity, loneliness, isolation, anxiety, have trouble sleeping and have a poor appetite. You may not want to get bed, and you may have lost all interest in things that you used to enjoy. It’s important to talk to someone at this stage, such as a counselor or others within a support group.
  • Acceptance: It may take a while, but in time, you will come to terms with the emotions you experienced when the death occurred. Only now can healing begin.

Contact Pathways Home Health and Hospice

We offer many helpful resources here at Pathways for those going through grief after the loss of a loved one. Our bereavement services include workshops, one-on-one counseling, support groups and more. Contact us to learn more at 888-978-1306.

Источник: https://pathwayshealth.org/grief-support/grief-and-depression-sorting-out-the-differences/

Bereavement vs Depression: Grief is Not an Illness

Grief vs. Depression: Which Is It?

Depression is a serious disease. Grief is part of the human condition. Let’s give each the appropriate care and treatment.

Lack of emotion. Sadness. Uncontrollable crying. Irritability. Loss of appetite. Despair. Exhaustion. Isolation.

This list sounds the classic description of someone suffering from clinical depression. But think again: depression and bereavement can present with the same symptoms. The truth is there are a whole host of uncomfortable — even painful — emotions that those who have suffered a loss must wade through following the death of a loved one.

The DSM Controversy Over Diagnosing Depression: The Bereavement Exclusion

The most recent version of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) for physicians allows for the diagnosis of clinical depression at any time, including immediately following the death of someone close to the patient.

Earlier versions of DSM required a waiting period, so that diagnosticians could separate out the grief of bereavement from depression.

The waiting period allowed for the dissipation of emotions that are normal and expected responses to a loss.

Society’s recent acceptance of the prevalence of mental illness has also become a shortcut for both patients and medical professionals. Depression is an illness that can be treated with medication, so asking for or prescribing medications are often the first impulses.

Physical Expressions of Bereavement Mirror Depression

“As a society, we don’t know how to be with difficult emotions,” says Donna Hartmann, bereavement coordinator for Crossroads Hospice & Palliative Care.

“Medication evens out the highs and lows of depression, so in some ways, it’s the easy way out. The problem is that emotions don’t go away; they dwell within us and can even cause physical pain until acknowledged and expressed.”

Still, Donna emphasizes, “We can’t swallow our feelings we swallow a pill.”

It takes physical energy to hold in our grief. Holding back tears can produce a lump-in-the-throat sensation. “Keeping it together” and acting normally can cause headaches, indigestion and aches.

In more serious cases, the bereaved can develop stress cardiomyopathy1, cardiac conditions2 and weakened immune systems3.

Sometimes coping mechanisms, smoking or drinking alcohol, can increase the risk for developing cancer.

Emotion — and Lots of It — is a Normal Part of Bereavement and Needs to be Addressed

The very word “emotion” implies movement; emotions need to move and flow, especially for those who’ve lost someone they love.

Individuals may respond “I’m fine” when asked how they are feeling, but bereavement counselors n “FINE” to mean frazzled, irritated, neurotic and exhausted. Some of the other symptoms of bereavement that may mimic depression are:

  • Anxiety
  • Crying
  • Feeling lost and empty
  • Impatience
  • Pulling away from comfort or touch
  • Sadness
  • Guilt

Alternatively, major depressive disorder may be marked by suicidal thoughts, persistent negativity and feelings of worthlessness. These may be red flags indicating need for intervention.

What Should be Tried First, Before Diagnosing Depression in the Bereaved?

Bereavement counselors would to substitute the prescription pad with a referral form to grief counseling. Often, processing feelings in a safe setting is the fastest path to alleviating symptoms. Thousands of people have attended the Grief Recovery Method® Program, a 12-week program that is offered for free to Crossroads patients and the community.

When considering bereavement vs depression, consider this: Depression is a serious disease. Bereavement, including grief, is part of the human condition. Let’s give each the appropriate care and treatment, and let the very normal bereavement process take place.

If you would to refer a patient or friend to Crossroads’ Grief Recovery Program in your area, please call 1-888-564-3405 or click here.

REFERENCES

http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/heart_vascular_institute/conditions_treatments/conditions/stress_cardiomyopathy/index.html

2Mostofsky E, Maclure M, Sherwood, J, Toffler G, Muller J, Mittleman M Risk of acute myocardial infarction after the death of a significant person in one’s life. Circulation. 2012;125:491-496

3Vitlic A, Khanfer R, Lord J, Carroll D, Phillips A. Bereavement reduces neutrophil oxidative burst only in older adults: role of the HPA axis and immunesenescence. Immunity & Ageing. 2014;11:13

Источник: https://www.crossroadshospice.com/hospice-resources/grief/bereavement-vs-depression-grief-is-not-an-illness/

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